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Get our IELTS Free Video Training   Do you know what to say to someone after a good or a bad date in English? Today you will find out from our favorite dating consultant, Jessica Coyle. You’ll also get some new English dating vocabulary and terms that you can use in the real world!   What should we do if we have just had a good date: (1) Send a text message that evening and say: “I had a really nice time.” “Had a great time tonight. (I) Would like to see you again.” “It was really nice meeting you, let’s hit up (go to) the MOMA.” “Thanks so much for a great time.” “I enjoyed meeting you.”   (2) Jessica likes to research the person online after a good first date to find out more about the person.   If you had a bad date you can say: “I didn’t feel any chemistry but best of luck.” “I got more of a friend vibe.” Key vocab from today: To ghost someone: To disappear and stop communicating after you have been on a date To do the fade-away: Similar to ghosting (see above) A vibe: A general feeling or impression To go Dutch: To split the bill Jessica’s Bio: Jessica Coyle has been teaching English since 2007. She received her Master’s in TESOL in 2013, finishing with a professional project researching the use of improvisational comedy teaching techniques to teach English as a second language. She has studied and performed improv comedy all over Korea, China, Canada and the United States. She writes a dating blog called Hopeful Disasters.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

20 Huhti 201519min

Come back to http://www.allearsenglish.com/305 and tell us what change you are going to make after today's episode Get our FREE IELTS CHEAT SHEET: http://www.allearsenglish.com/evaluation   Today you’ll find out why staying in the same place will never get you to where you want to go and how to make an effective change quickly and easily. Here it today’s quote: “To get something you never had you have to do something you never did.” -Unknown “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” -Tony Robbins   It’s so easy to get into a habit but we have to step back and ask ourselves if our habits are creating the results that we want. Time goes by fast. We often realize that we have been doing the same thing for years and we haven’t achieved our goals. Here are some examples of our goals: Michelle’s new goal: She wants to build upper body strength. How is she working towards the goal? She is using resistance bands at her home a few times every week. Lindsay’s new goal: She wants to deepen her meditation practice. She has started going to her meditation center every morning.   What about you? What are you going to change after listening to today’s episode? What change do you want to create in your life? Tell us in the comments below Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

16 Huhti 201517min

Come back and tell us what your dating deal breakers are! http://www.allearsenglish.com/303 Get our FREE IELTS CHEAT SHEET: http://www.allearsenglish.com/evaluation Today we have our dating consultant, Jessica Coyle, back on the show! Today Jessica is back to talk about the concept of chemistry in dating in urban US culture. Jessica is going to tell us how to know if we actually have chemistry with someone. Chemistry: A magnetic pull between two people where you seem to understand the other person and something is different about that person to you.  Two different types of chemistry: Slow burn chemistry: You start out as friends and then chemistry and attraction gradually builds over time. Features of the other person that seemed strange or unattractive initially start to become endearing and attractive. Quick chemistry/limerance: This is more of an infatuation. Jessica thinks that online dating and set ups reward this type of attraction. These connections can be really intense at first and then can fizzle out and not end well. At the same time, sometimes these attractions can work in the long run.   What about in your culture? What are your deal breakers when it comes to dating? In your culture, how much influence do your parents and family have when it comes to your choice of a partner?   Here are some dating vocabulary words that we talked about today: Limerance Lukewarm feelings Slow burn chemistry Quirks (personality and physical) Deal breakers Red Flag     Jessica Coyle has been teaching English since 2007. She received her Master’s in TESOL in 2013, finishing with a professional project researching the use of improvisational comedy teaching techniques to teach English as a second language. She has studied and performed improv comedy all over Korea, China, Canada and the United States. How to find Jessica Online: Her dating blog: https://hopefuldisasters.wordpress.com/   Let us know your thoughts on this topic. What are your deal breakers? How important is chemistry when it comes to dating in your home culture? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

15 Huhti 201519min

Come back and let us know your thoughts on this: http://www.allearsenglish.com/302 Get our FREE IELTS Cheat Sheet: http://www.allearsenglish.com/evaluation   Today we have a special guest on the show! Our guest will challenge your assumption that SPEAKING is the most important part of learning English. Julian sees learning languages as a simple, two-step process: Step 1: Learn the language that we need for our specific situation Step 1: Apply the language and use it     Julian’s 3 Tips- How to Keep it Practical: Try to do many different kinds of things in the language: English is a process. Spend time with it. You can’t HAVE it. You can’t GET it. You need to constantly maintain it. Julian says that there is no difference between “experiencing” the language and “learning” the language, as far as your brain is concerned. By experiencing the language in many different ways, we can acquire chunks of English which will help us to sound more native-like. You should try to encounter the language through reading, speaking, listening, writing, etc. Get a more well-rounded experience of the language instead of just focusing on speaking.   Try to get a balance between intensive activity and relaxed exposure: Some of your work should be deliberate, focused, practical, intensive study. At the same time, some of your work should be a more relaxed encounter with the language. You need to take it in in a way that is enjoyable and easy. You could try listening to music in the language or watching TV. The key is getting a balance between the two forms of learning.   Focus on things which are useful to YOU: Exclude things that aren’t useful to you. Don’t bother to learn things that you won’t need to use. According to Julian, we don’t become fluent in English. We become fluent in specific topics such as cooking, law, politics, art, etc. Choose your focus and pursue English in that area. Drop the idea of becoming “fluent” in English in general.   Julian’s Bio: Our guest today is an English teacher from England, living in Japan. He is the father of three bilingual children, is halfway through a PhD program in Psycholinguistics and used his insight about language learning to go from speaking poor Japanese in 2008 to being a translator in 2010. Our guest today is Julian from DoingEnglish.com   What do you think? Have you focused down on one specific area of English learning? What area are you focusing on? Let us know in the comments! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

13 Huhti 201519min

Get our IELTS CHEAT SHEET HERE: http://www.allearsenglish.com/evaluation   Most people think that forgiveness is weakness but today we’ll challenge your perspective with an awesome quote! Do you have any enemies? Do you have any “frenemies”? Here is today’s quote for a Deep Thoughts Thursday: “Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.” – Oscar Wilde   What does this quote mean? This quote is somewhat “cheeky” and it says that if we want to annoy our enemies even more, we can forgive them. Also, the quote is telling us that it’s better for us to forgive. It helps us lead healthier lives. When you have an enemy you carry a lot of negative energy around and it takes up space in your body and in your brain.   According to Mayoclinic.org, the benefits of forgiveness include: Stronger immune system Less anxiety Lower blood pressure   A few great vocabulary words from today’s episode: Frenemy: “Friend” + “enemy”= someone that you care about and you are there for them but you can’t get along with them on an everyday basis and many things about that person bother you. To hold a grudge: You keep thinking about something that someone did to you, you hold on to your anger. You don’t move on.   Do you have someone to forgive? What is holding you back from forgiving that person? Share your experience in the comments.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

9 Huhti 201514min

Come back to our blog and leave a comment. Did you bring up one of these topics on a first date? What happened? Tell us your story: http://www.allearsenglish.com/299 Get our free IELTS Chat Sheet at http://www.allearsenglish.com/evaluation   Jessica is the author of Hopeful Disasters where she explores dating in New York City. She is also an ESL teacher in New York City. Check out her blog here!   When you meet someone for the first time in English, whether it’s a date or just a first-time meeting with a friend or colleague, there are certain topics that you should NEVER discuss. Today you’ll find out what they are with our favorite AEE dating consultant, Jessica Coyle. A few weeks ago we talked about what four things you SHOULD talk about on a first date in English or at a first meeting but today we’ll show you what you should avoid.   4 Topics to AVOID on a first date or first meeting in English: Politics: You can casually mention your political interests but don’t get drawn into a political debate or discussion. Jessica calls this “quicksand” because you can start to sink and you’ll get stuck and you won’t be able to get out of it. It’s better to bring up this topic once you already know someone well and after you know their triggers well. Age: You should definitely avoid asking the person their exact age. Also, this means that you should not ask people about their timeline in terms of when they want to get married or have kids. It’s too direct and too intense for a first date or first conversation. You might terrify the person if start asking these questions too early. Religion: You probably have a rough idea of your date’s religion and it will be important later but it’s too personal to get into during a first date. It’s ok to share your own religion if you want to but don’t ask the person directly what their religion is.  Education: This is tricky. Jessica says that the goal in not asking this question is to avoid coming off as arrogant or judgmental. If you ask the person where they went to school or how many degrees they have, it will be clear that you are fishing for information regarding their intelligence or social status. You might make the other person feel bad if you ask this question. Try to figure out if there is an intellectual connection instead. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

7 Huhti 201519min

Come back and tell us how you want to apply this quote in your life: http://www.allearsenglish.com/297 What is the difference between being original and imitating? What will get you further in life? Today is a Deep Thoughts Thursday so we have a quote: “It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.” -Herman Melville     What does this mean for English learners? Don’t follow a formula. Be creative with your words. Don’t focus too much on being perfect. Get creative with your tone of voice. Learn different ways to say different things.   Check out this episode about the Zone of Genius.   Where does this quote resonate with you? Let us know in the comments. We want to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

2 Huhti 201514min

Do you feel like you never get a chance to speak English? Even when you attend an English class or work with an English tutor do you leave the class feeling like you haven’t spoken at all? If so, then you are not alone. A lot of students feels this way. Today we have a guest, Jason Newnum, who is an American English teacher. He teaches on the italki platform and he is available for lessons now! Jason has a special class called “Student Speaks, Teacher Listens.”     Why did Jason create this class? Jason created this class because when he took Spanish classes he noticed that he was not getting much speaking practice at all. He felt discouraged and didn’t get much better. He realized that the same problem was happening with English students. Jason wants to solve this problem.   Why is Jason’s class different? He makes sure that students talk more, about 80% of the time He feels comfortable being quiet, he doesn’t get nervous like other teachers do sometimes when they are nervous so he doesn’t fill that space with meaningless chatter   A typical class with Jason: He asks you what’s new with you He gives you a short article or video clip and asks for your opinion He asks great follow-up questions- directly related to YOU and YOUR experiences He writes out your mistakes in the Skype chat box so that you have a record of your mistakes     Jason’s Bio: Jason Newnum teaches English as a second language, in Bariloche, Argentina, and lives there with his family. Although he received his university degree in Spanish and now lives in a Spanish speaking country, his Argentine wife speaks English and Spanish equally. So it’s difficult to force himself to practice Spanish, when it’s easier to speak English with his wife. So he understands the frustrations of having to force ourselves to practice a foreign language everyday.   Do you have this problem with your English class? Are you planning to try Jason’s class? If so, let us know when you are going to get started with Jason. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

1 Huhti 201517min