Thinking Fast and Slow: How to make better decisions and avoid hidden mind traps

How massive trauma and facing life's fragile nature can lead to people to be truly alive. Near-death experiences can build a positive psychology and the tools for a growth mindset. With my guest Talia Lazarus, we explore the essence of the Phoenix Phenomenon and rising from the ashes renewed. We share stories of resilience, the science behind post-traumatic growth, and practical strategies for leveraging life’s toughest moments to foster an unbreakable spirit. Topics include: Capturing the power of near-death-experiences Uncovering a real growth mindset Resilience training for the school of life How to live without regret Whether you are seeking to overcome personal adversity or feel intrigued by the intersection of psychology and human endurance, this episode offers invaluable insights into thriving beyond survival. Talia Lazarus Insta - @TaliaLazarus Email - hello@igotbackup.net Blog - I Got Back Up Podcast - Spotify / Apple Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters 00:00 Don't miss you're life whilst your alive 03:00 What is a Growth Mindset 05:34 Talia's Life-Changing Accident 10:13 Trauma impact on attachment style 11:31 The Aftermath and Rock Bottom 12:28 Small changes that add up 13:14 Quitting Her Job to Follow Her Passion 16:26 Ad Break 18:39 Second surgery 21:18 When survival instinct doesn't work 22:46 Most people don't meet their potential 23:47 Perspective-Shifting Experiences 26:37 Dream Experiences vs. Near-Death Experiences 29:05 The Doorstep mile 30:02 Starting the "I Got Back Up" Blog/Podcast 32:08 Mid-roll 2 32:08 The Rear-View Mirror Mentality 35:18 Past Behaviours vs current self 36:04 You are never alone 39:28 Everyone should nearly die once 40:17 Best ways to die and resilience training 42:26 Small acts of kindness 44:28 Spreading More Positivity to Receive It 47:03 You get what you give 48:01 Send off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

15 Maalis 202450min

How to take action and get things done. A simple strategy to find clarity on what is important: Being busy vs being productive Eliminate distractions Become accountable to your own priorities Stop being controlled by deadlines No more getting bogged down in being busy, without meaningful progress. Cut through all the productivity advice and get to the heart of doing the thing you need to do. Nothing fancy. - - Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters 00:00 Problems with too much productivity advice 01:40 Doing the thing - Essay 03:12 Busy vs productive 04:51 Productivity for a podcaster 07:04 False productivity - Hiking 08:47 Psychology of productivity 09:31 Procrastination - Temporal Motivation Theory 10:53 Planning Fallacy 11:30 Zegarknik effect - Just start 13:23 AD Break 15:36 -- Questions and Answers -- 15:45 When should I do the thing? 15:55 What if I don't have time? 16:09 How do you make time? 17:09 What if it's hard? 17:59 What if I am not ready to do the thing? 20:56 What if I don't know how to do the thing? 22:12 What if I fail? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

12 Maalis 202425min

Find a compatible partner for long-term happiness. Choosing the right partner is important. We cover everything you need to know: 🙌 Increase the quality of potential partners 🙈 Avoid common dating mistakes ☠️ Early signs of toxic partners 😵‍💫 Unlearn relationship myths 🗺️ Optimal search theory The episode is about the art and science of attracting and choosing the right partner. Discover 12 transformative tools designed to elevate the quality of individuals you draw into your life, ensure more fulfilling dates, and adeptly filter out relationships that drain your energy or detract from your happiness. From enhancing mutual attraction to mastering the art of effective dating screening, we cover essential strategies for fostering connections that enrich your life. Tune in for insights on navigating the dating world with confidence, avoiding common pitfalls, and laying the groundwork for meaningful, long-lasting partnerships Sponsor - Magic Mind The world's first mental performance shot magicmind.com/growthMS 56% off Magic Mind discount code: GrowthMS20 Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters 00:00 How to choose a partner 00:56 Importance of shared values 03:10 Know what you want 05:18 What is the "Optimal Choice" 05:56 Increasing the pool of potential mates 06:45 Go on more dates 08:14 Improving yourself to attract better partners 09:58 4 Mistakes and bad advice when choosing a partner 13:06 Ad - Magic Mind 14:14 4 Dating myths to uncover 20:32 5 Signs to look at when choosing a partner 22:32 Mid-Roll (past relationships) 26:53 Screening for a positive mindset 28:29 Optimal Search Theory 31:18 Sendoff Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

8 Maalis 202433min

The essentials of improving self-worth for better relationships and the practices for self-love that pave the way to finding and keeping love. Jonathon Aslay is known as America's leading mid-life relationships coach and is the author of "What the Heck is Self-Love Anyway?" Jonathon sheds light on the importance of self-reflection in dating and how to become someone of worth to others. Learn: the secrets to finding the right partner in modern dating identifying deal-breakers in potential partners the mindsets for lasting love and connection how to cultivate a successful relationship mindset This conversation is a treasure trove of advice for anyone looking to enhance their dating life and build healthy, meaningful relationships. - - - Connect with Jonathan: His website - JonathonAslay.com Watch his advice -  YouTube - Jonathon Aslay - - - Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen - - - Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction 01:23 - Background 04:17 - What is self-love 07:40 - Wake-up calls are a thing 11:30 - Where humanity is being silly 13:30 - the biggest problems in relationships 17:03 - Notice self-defense 20:00 - It's not what you do, it's how you do it 24:11 - Non-violent communication 28:40 - Read books together 30:40 - Eight dates 36:30 - Earliest memory 38:00 - Kindest thing Topics: finding the right partner in modern dating mistakes to avoid in searching for love improving self-worth for better relationships practices for self-love and partner love Jonathan Aslay's approach to successful dating keys to being a valuable partner in relationships navigating the dating world with confidence the mindset for lasting love and connection identifying deal-breakers in potential partners strategies for attracting the right person the importance of self-reflection in dating transforming your love life with expert advice overcoming common dating pitfalls building a foundation for healthy relationships cultivating a successful relationship mindset Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

5 Maalis 202443min

Learn how to battle intrusive thoughts and create more peace in your mind and in your relationships. We cover the natural thinking pathways that lead to catastrophizing behaviours and how they become overused. We can then address how to start building healthier behaviours that reduce and calm our worries instead of amplifying them. This is an incredible game-changer for relationships as well as helping improve your social life and work life once you can better control your worries and fears before they control you. Sponsor - Magic Mind The world's first mental performance shot magicmind.com/growthMS 56% off Magic Mind discount code: GrowthMS20 Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters 00:00 Intro 01:53 What is catastrophising 04:25 Build awareness 07:17 Magnifying and minimising 08:40 More details feels more real. 10:29 Advert - Magic Mind 11:30 Humans are story telling machines 14:17 Catastrophizing and being diagnosed with ADHD 17:03 Balancing worst and best scenarios 18:09 Social anxiety example 19:55 Write a journal 21:17 Alex Hormozi selling gym subscriptions 21:55 Want and don't want chair 24:39 4 stages of intrusive thoughts 30:03 Mitigating catastrophization 34:08 Growth mindset Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

1 Maalis 202437min

Conversation drives the mechanics of love and connection. We talk with Topaz Adizes, the brilliant mind behind '12 Questions for Love' to increase the quality of our conversations. We explore the methodology behind asking the right questions to foster deeper intimacy and understanding in relationships. Topaz Azides is an Emmy award-winning film director, experience designer, and founder of Skin Deep. He shares his insights on engineering experiences that enrich our emotional bonds and the importance of a mindful approach to love. With a blend of storytelling and analysis, this conversation unveils the layers of human connection, offering listeners a unique perspective on improving their relationships. If you're curious about the science and art of love, don't miss this enlightening discussion. Topics include: How to improve communication in relationships Techniques to create spaces that enhance emotional intimacy How to craft better questions Navigating conflict with compassion and empathy Strategies for maintaining passion in long-term relationships Cultivating a growth mindset in love and life Sponsor - Magic Mind The world's first mental performance shot magicmind.com/growthMS 56% off Magic Mind discount code: GrowthMS20 Topaz Azides Experience designer and self-described story-breaker. Here are links to Topaz's best resources. Book - 12 Questions for Love Card Game - THE_AND Tik Tok - @TheSkinDeep YouTube - TheSkinDeep Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters: 00:00 Do we control our thoughts 03:50 Architecting Experiences 08:31 Finding new dimensions in our moments 11:34 What makes a brilliant question 15:23 Humans are answering machines 17:41 Advert - Magic Mind 19:07 Great questions for life 21:23 Power of being articulate 23:31 Importance of attention 25:27 Question loops 27:31 Chapters of life 31:20 Dangers of quick fixes - should a relationship be allowed to end 36:43 Cultural or regional variations 39:46 Daily practices or habits for sustaining a relationship 43:29 How to stay positive 48:17 Future projects 50:58 Reflections Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

27 Helmi 202456min

What makes you... you? How much of that can you decide? These are the big questions we tackle in this short Life Lesson bonus episode for some ideas to percolate over the weekend and take forward with us. From the attachment styles we learnt as children to our accents and even how we think about learning. These are all behaviours that are up to us if we choose to be pro-active about how we show up in life and who we want to be. We'll learn how to act consistently with compounding behaviours over time to build brick by brick the big changes we want to make. We'll build techniques to unlearn negative behaviors and utilise a Growth mindset to focus on positive development Sponsor - Magic Mind The world's first mental performance shot magicmind.com/growthMS 56% off Magic Mind discount code: GrowthMS20 Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters: 00:00 What makes you, you? 03:05 Memory and the self 04:33 British Accents and lessons of children 06:11 Attachment and behaviour 08:13 Small Actions Compound 09:50 Advert - Magic Mind 10:43 Opening our minds 11:58 Every story has a villain 12:45 Battling the expectations in your mind 14:30 Feedback 15:57 Send Off Links: Tim Urban - Why Generation Y is Unhappy Steven Pressfield - Every story needs a villian How I write with Tim Urban - Why your writing is boring Become a member at https://plus.acast.com/s/growth-mindset-podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

25 Helmi 202418min

We clear the complex waters of setting healthy boundaries in relationships, a masterclass designed to empower you with the tools for understanding and creating boundaries that foster freedom and respect. Join us as we navigate the nuances of recognizing and avoiding porous or rigid boundaries and understand the impact of weak boundaries on personal well-being. We explore strategies for balancing personal needs with those of others, ensuring your relationships are built on a foundation of mutual respect and understanding. Discover practical steps for identifying personal, social and value-based boundaries and learn how to communicate boundaries without feeling selfish. As a bonus we tackle the challenges of navigating work-life balance through effective boundary setting, offering insights on developing assertiveness in boundary communication. Sponsor - Magic Mind The world's first mental performance shot magicmind.com/growthMS 56% off Magic Mind discount code: GrowthMS20 10 signs of Boundary issues Difficulty making decisions Feeling selfish for saying no Frequent apologizing Uncertainty about what to share Passive aggressiveness Losing sense of self Need for external validation Resentment A constant sense of fatigue Dramatic relationships Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Chapters: 00:00 What are boundaries 02:24 Pre-roll 02:55 Boundaries in life 05:06 Why boundaries need balance 07:15 10 signs of poor boundaries 11:30 Abusive situations 14:53 AD - MagicMind 16:41 Weak boundaries 18:48 Rigid boundaries 20:36 Why we struggle with boundaries 24:36 Creating healthy boundaries 25:05 Personal Boundaries 25:34 Social Boundaries 26:55 Mid-roll 26:58 Value-based boundaries 28:17 Communicating boundaries 29:59 Traffic light framework 33:32 The importance of independence 36:15 Book suggestions Topics: how to set healthy boundaries in relationships understanding the impact of weak boundaries on personal well-being examples of setting boundaries with family and friends communicating boundaries without feeling selfish navigating work-life balance through effective boundary setting recognizing and avoiding porous or rigid boundaries the role of cultural background in boundary setting practical steps for identifying personal vs social boundaries developing assertiveness in boundary communication dealing with boundary violations in close relationships creating stronger relationships through clear boundaries boundary setting for self-care and mental health strategies for balancing personal needs with those of others overcoming fear of conflict when setting boundaries transforming family patterns with healthy boundary practices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

23 Helmi 202439min