The Calm That Still Had Conditions
In Episode 16 of After the Quiet, I share what the year after my son was born really looked like inside a coercive controlling relationship. On the surface, things felt calmer — we had a routine, a be...
26 Tammi 17min
“You’re Just Pregnant, Not Dead.”
In Episode 15 of After the Quiet, I share what pregnancy and early motherhood were really like inside a coercive controlling relationship. From Christmas 2004 in Cuba to finding out I was pregnant wit...
23 Tammi 13min
The Marriage Had Rules I Never Agreed Too
In Episode 14 of After the Quiet, I share what early marriage really looked like behind closed doors—and the “rules” I was expected to follow without ever agreeing to them. This episode explores coerc...
21 Tammi 11min
The House Wasn’t The Only Thing Being Built
In Episode 13 of After the Quiet, I share what it was really like living through home renovations as a newly married woman—where the stress wasn’t just the dust and chaos, but the growing emotional co...
19 Tammi 9min
The Honeymoon Isn't The Beginning
In Episode 12 of After the Quiet, I share what happened during my honeymoon in Mexico — and how the cracks in a controlling relationship didn’t disappear after marriage. From feeling alone during excu...
17 Tammi 14min
The Engagement That Wasn't A Question
In Episode 11 of After the Quiet, I share what it was like to move toward marriage after a long-term controlling relationship that never truly healed. From a first engagement at age 20, to a wedding p...
16 Tammi 12min
When Growth Becomes a Threat
In Episode 10 of After the Quiet, I share what happened when I was accepted into a university program three and a half hours from home — and how my growth became a threat in a controlling relationship...
16 Tammi 9min
When Something Starts to Push Back
In Episode 9 of After the Quiet, I explore the moment when something inside begins to push back — not through escape, but through exhaustion, numbness, and quiet resistance. This episode reflects on e...
16 Tammi 7min
