E.81 - Breaking Free of Old Beliefs with Joyous Williams
Joy has a wide range of abilities to help her clients, as she is able to operate in multiple ways. Sometimes she's a trauma therapist, other times an art therapist, and yet others she plays the role of a coach! We start by talking about each of these roles--what they are, and who best might qualify for each--before jumping deep into attachment theory. What is attachment theory? What are the types of attachments? How does knowing your attachment style actually help you? Joy gives a great, real-world example of how an anxious type and an avoidant type might interact, how to address the potential miscommunication of needs between the two, and tips on how to heal attachment wounds. Tune in to hear what she has to say about how attachment theory changes when it comes to polyamory, and what triggering attachment wounds might bring up in your relationships! Learn more about Joy at www.recreatingdawn.com and follow her @recreatingdawn !
28 Heinä 202133min
E.80 - Transitioning and Mental Health with Arin Brutlag
TW: Conversion Therapy Practices (20:07 - 22:39) In this episode, we get to hear about Arin's experience with questioning their gender, going back as far as when they were five years old and realized that they were not quite fitting in like everyone else. Their experience with bullying inspired them to work with kids who are questioning their gender, helping kids navigate this oft-confusing path. But it's not just kids who need help navigating, their parents often do, too! Arin and I get to dive into what the internet has done to help the trans, non-binary, questioning community and how gender non-conforming kids are getting along in her therapy practice. We get into some of the struggles someone might face when coming out, and what some reactions from parents might be. Here's where we hit the trigger warning. We talk about some of the torture that people face when going through conversion therapy. Please skip from 20:07 to 22:39 if you are sensitive to this topic. We finish it up with some tips for parents of someone who is coming out, and get a chance to answer a listener question! I had so much fun with Arin and I know you will, too! Learn more about Arin at www.renewedmentalhealth.com and follow them @renewedmentalhealth !
27 Heinä 202133min
E.79 - The Healing Power of Kink with Sawah Danniels
Let's get kinky with it! Today we chat with Sawah Danniels, a gender & polyam affirming, anti-racist decolonialist therapist operating from the unceded K’Tunaxa, Sinixt, and Okanagan territories (otherwise known as Nelson, British Columbia). We get into some great discussion on how they Incorporate geek/nerd culture into therapy, and I get to nerd out on Marvel talking about Thor's mental health journey. Then we jump right into debunking common kink myths, at which point we get into the ideas around sub space, how to navigate around the disconnect that happens during intense scenes, and the importance of aftercare. We get really deep into how people have utilized kink for healing trauma (TW: we talk about sexual assault), and this is such a powerful part of the conversation! Last we some of the differences and similarities between dom drop and sub drop, and how people can navigate their scenes and roles. Tune in to hear it all, and learn more about Sawah by going to www.thenerdytherapist.com and follow them @thenerdytherapist !
26 Heinä 202138min
E.78 - Polyamorous Parenting, Boundaries, and Consent with Jenna Trostle
Is it sexy to ask permission for the first kiss? We think so! In this episode I get to chat with Jenna Trostle, a therapist based in Melbourne, Australia, and we get into some really deep discussion around consent (among other things). Jenna shares her story of what brought her to Australia and her journey through polyam, and how caring about the environment inspired her to pursue a career as a therapist. When it comes to consent, we talk about getting clear on what the connection with a person may or may not be, what happens when assumptions are made (we've all been there), and how to rescind consent when it's already been given. This was such a fun and valuable conversation and I know our audience will take a lot from this. Learn more about Jenna at www.spectracounselling.com and follow @spectracounselling !
21 Heinä 202134min
E.77 - Moving from Money Anxiety to Financial Empowerment with Mike Pumphrey
Having my own background in business and entrepreneurship, I was really excited to chat with Mike today about all things personal finance. Mike's approach to financial coaching is based on attachment theory, so we dove into what people's relationships are with money and how it affects our polyamorous relationships. One big takeway from this discussion is that there's a difference between having real money challenges, compared how much money you FEEL like you have. Emotions around money can be very different, and it's important for people to recognize your own money story. Tune in to learn why Mike became a money coach for the polyam and LGBT communities, get some tips on planning finances within a polycule, and learn how attachment theory applies to money (are you avoidant, secure, anxious?) plus how privilege affects our relationship to money. Learn more about Mike at www.empathicfinance.com and follow him @mikepumphreymoneycoach !
20 Heinä 202141min
E.76 - You CAN Heal Your Trauma with Heather Spreadborough
In this episode I chat with Heather Spreadborough, a therapist who believes in you and your ability to recover from trauma. We start the conversation by defining exactly what trauma is, what it is and what it isn't--specifically the differences between grief, loss and trauma. My favorite part of this episode is how deep we got into the fascinating subject of EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. We got really deep into the science of why it works, who is a good candidate for EMDR therapy, and the importance of the trust you'll need to have in your therapist before starting EMDR. This was a truly fascinating interview and you won't want to miss it! Learn more about our guest at www.heathertherapy.com
19 Heinä 202135min
E.75 - Making the Throuple Life Work with Dr. Rachael Meir & Kasey Kershner
Dr. Rachael Meir returns to the podcast and brings Kasey Kershner with her, giving us two out of three partners of a closed triad. When they met, Rachael and her husband were looking to find a special connection together, and Kasey had been through a previous relationship that was heavily influenced by couples privilege and was marred by heartbreak. Tune in to hear about how the trio came together, fell in love and decided to live together after just 12 days, and what the three went through individually and together throughout their journey so far. Hear about how Rachael and Aaron have worked to deconstruct their couples privilege and invite Kasey in as an equal partner, and considerations Kasey made to ensure that she would not be treated like a unicorn being hunted. An absolutely amazing conversation with these two amazing ladies that you won't want to miss! Follow them and learn more @triadandtrue !
14 Heinä 202133min
E.74 - Coping with Heartbreak in Polyamory with Heather Garner
This was an excellent episode with therapist Heather Garner out of Towson, Maryland. We covered a ton of great material in this episode, such as what to expect as a polyamorous parent, how kids benefit from having more adults around, and reasons why poly parents might often get criticism from society. We get into coping with heartbreak by asking how to work through a breakup when children have developed an emotional attachment to partners, and some guidelines on how to introduce partners to our children, too. Learn more about our guest by going to www.garneringchange.net and follow on IG: @garnering_change !
13 Heinä 202133min
