You Have to Help Them Do This
"We love our kids, that’s why we hate to see them struggle. But maybe that’s precisely the wrong way to think about it? Because we love our kids, we have to let them struggle. We need them to struggl...
17 Elo 20203min
Teach Them to Ask Questions
"Too often, as parents, we focus on the results. We care about their grades. We care about whether they’re turning in their homework. We care whether they know their times tables or whether they’re ma...
14 Elo 20202min
This Must Come First
"Trevor Ariza chose family over basketball. He chose his son—a month with him—over $1.8 million dollars in salary. He made the right choice, although it couldn’t have been an easy one. This year’s NBA...
13 Elo 20202min
They Can’t Tell You This
“Your kids can’t tell you they’re having a hard time. They don’t know that they are. They don’t understand what’s happening in the world. They don’t appreciate what the disruption to their schedule, t...
12 Elo 20202min
Look for These Moments
In the 2008 American presidential campaign, Barack Obama famously used the Reverend Wright scandal as what he later called a “teachable moment”—a chance to discuss race with the American people. Ryan ...
11 Elo 20203min
This Is Your Warrant
"What gives you the right? What’s your purpose on this planet? Why do you work so hard, why do you fight for the causes you fight for, why do you put up with all the crap you have to put up with in th...
10 Elo 20202min
Everything but This Is Temporary
"You’ve been working for this moment your whole life. To make it into the league. To sit behind the big desk. To command the squadron. To have the power. It was for these things that you sacrificed a ...
7 Elo 20202min
This Is the Enemy of Good Parenting
"There are so many sad examples: The father who can’t bear to be contradicted. The parents who refuse to admit when they are wrong. The mom who spends all her energy trying to impress other people. Th...
6 Elo 20202min
