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I am sorry you felt the need to have to listen to this podcast. Know that you are far from alone and dont deserve to have to go through the pain of what you are dealing with. You are so not alone and you should check out the other stories on this podcast to see what others are dealing with and may give you some great advice. just because I use a robot voice due to speech issues please know that I truly do care and that You are loved.13 Subtle Signs of Cheating to Watch Out For These indicators aren't meant to be alarmist but if your gut is trying to tell you something, they could prove useful.Most of us tend to give our partners the benefit of the doubt as far as fidelity goes. But the truth is, signs of cheating do exist. In fact, according to a 2016 survey, one in four married and cohabiting young adults admitted to cheating, while only half confess.You probably know the obvious signs of cheating, like lurking on dating sites long after getting into a relationship or always coming home late without a solid excuse. But in order to really ID a cheater, it pays to watch for subtle signs that aren't as overt.The following indicators aren't meant to be alarmist—almost all of them can have alternate explanations—but if your gut is really trying to tell you something, they could prove useful.Your relationship started as an affairFor some people, there is some truth to the saying “once a cheater, always a cheater." John, 44, says he should've seen it coming when he got into a relationship with a married woman. “We were good in bed together, but she enjoyed being good in bed with others, too, apparently.”They regularly accuse you of cheatingBeyond being classic projection, this tactic serves two purposes, says Healing Infidelity Coach Caroline Madden, LMFT. It puts you on the defensive so you don't have the chance to consider the opposite possibility, and it makes them look so anti-cheating that they couldn't possibly do it to you. It could also be a genuine reaction to them realizing that since they got away with cheating, you probably could too.They're taking out a lot of cashCheaters often use cash when they take their secret partners out so that their S.O.'s can't track where they've been, says Rhonda Milrad, founder and chief relationship advisor of Relationup. But if you share a financial account, what you can track is a spike in ATM withdrawals.They've suddenly got new sex movesOf course, it's possible they've just been doing their research—in which case, great if you're into it—but other signs of cheating combined with a very noticeable change in sex routine could mean they're picking up those new techniques from someone else and discovering new things they like, says Milrad.They're suddenly hyper-critical of youCheaters will sometimes try to justify their actions by making their relationship out to be so bad that they had no choice, explains Madden. She typically sees this happen in situations where the cheater feels they're in love with their cheating partner, since they have a sense that their affair is happier than their relationship. Your typical relationship issues seem to disappearMadden's clients are often surprised to find their partners are cheating because they thought everything was going well around the time the infidelity started. But sometimes, the reason things are looking up is that the needs that weren't met in the relationship are being met elsewhere.They're paying more attention to their looksIf your S.O. is once again hitting the gym, buying new underwear, or taking a newfound interest in shopping, they could be in an early stage with someone else, says Madden.They forget what stories they've told youIf your partner frequently starts stories with, "Did I tell you this already?" it could mean they're having trouble keeping track of multiple confidants, says psychologist Colleen Long, PsyD.They're confiding in you lessBecoming less inclined to discuss problems with you could be a sign that your partner's been venting to someone else, says Long. Even if they're not sleeping with anyone else, this could point toward emotional cheating.They keep strict tabs on your scheduleLauren, 33, says her ex started to ask when she was coming home from work more often when he was cheating. Now, she sees he was trying to figure out when he and his cheating partner would have the place to themselves.They have random new interests"My ex had been content to listen to about eight songs, total, during our entire time together," Julie remembers. "A bunch of new CDs without any writing to identify their contents—and a sudden interest in a whole host of new music—was due to the influence of this new partner." Attachment to a particular place can especially be a giveaway: Julie's ex insisted on joining a gym because of a climbing wall when he didn't even climb. It turned out his secret girlfriend was a member.Cheating was accepted in their familyLooking back, John thinks his ex's parents should've been a clue. "She came from a family where her mother and father both cheated on each other and she told me that," he says. “But her parents were still married. So they set an example for their daughter to follow." They get irate when you try to confront themSomeone who hasn't cheated will likely have a good explanation for their suspicious behavior and do what it takes for you to feel confident. A cheater, however, may get defensive because you've blown their cover, says Milrad. "It is very common for cheaters to deflect responsibility and get irritated by your questions. They often try and shut you down and even criticize you for being too controlling or suspicious."Cheating Wives Stories is a place where people can come to hear stories of wives or girlfriends cheating. Plus some good revenge on Cheat Wives and Girlfriends. These stories also serve to let people currently going through the heartbreak a place to come and know they ARE NOT ALONE.Marriage Is A Bad Investment!#infidelity #cheating #relationships #cheatingstories#revenge #cheating #relationshipWhat are the signs of an unfaithful wife?Signs Your Spouse Could Be CheatingChanges in Communication.Appearance and Hobbies.Attitude Changes.Lying and Avoidance.Indifference.Changes in Your Sex Life.Money Issues.A Change in Technology Use.How do I treat my wife after she cheated?Here are a few important actions to take together that can help repair your relationship.Make sure there is remorse.Be honest about why it happened.Remove temptations to re-engage with the affair.Move forward with brutal honesty and care.Be selective about who you tell.Consider working with a licensed therapist.Should you divorce a cheating wife?Although it's a personal choice, it is not recommended to maintain a marriage when children are the only reason to do it, especially if you and your spouse often fight. In such a case, divorcing a cheating wife or husband might be a better option.What are the first signs of cheating?13 Subtle Signs of Cheating to Watch Out ForYour relationship started as an affair. ...They're taking out a lot of cash. ...They've suddenly got new sex moves. ...They're suddenly hyper-critical of you. ...Your typical relationship issues seem to disappear. ...They're paying more attention to their looks.