From Threesomes to Non-Monogamy: One Man's Journey Beyond Jealousy and Shame

Ep 198: Sex is Messy, Dirty, & Pleasurable, Understanding Our Sexuality with Dr. Joe Kort. "Sexuality and erotic interests are not clean. They are messy, nuanced, smelly, dirty, prideful, pleasurable, shameful, and we have to make room for all of that and not try to clean it up and try to make it a textbook thing," said Dr. Joe Kort. This is the last sentence he said in the interview and I think it's so very right, poignant, and definitely an accurate statement. Sex is all of those things, and even more! And it's certainly not cookie-cutter or so-called "normal". There is no normal. And why should there be? We are all individuals, as is each of our sexualities. Listen to and learn from our amazing discussion! He has years and years of experience, he's so knowledgeable about sex and relationships. We chatted about all things sexuality. He shared about his journey coming out as a gay man in the seventies, how his mom was enlightened enough to get him help, but how he also fell into the trap of being labeled with a sexual addiction, which he later learned was false as with time he learned more about sexual health and reframed his mindset to a much healthier one. He became a therapist in response to his journey. He counsels predominantly heterosexual couples, and he shared some very interesting stories from his practice. He talked about how our sexual orientation is not in the acts we do, but rather it's who we are. He talked about how we need to shed shame, and how the worldviews have changed regarding gay/lesbian people. We also chatted about how trans people are being stigmatized now. We talked about sexual orientation, masturbation, erotic compassion, cracking our erotic code, and how what's driving it isn't even about sex at all. He highlighted the importance of shedding shame for healthier sexuality and how couples really need to harness the mindset of having erotic compassion for one another, and not judge each other for their fantasies. Connect with Dr. Joe Kort for his website, books, and podcast here: https://joekort.com/ Find all his links here: https://linktr.ee/drjoekort Joe's book Erotic Orientation (affiliate): https://amzn.to/3RT5v1m Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? https://amzn.to/3VkwJkl 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives https://amzn.to/3VfixcF Thank you Joe for coming on my show! Check out his podcast  Smart Sex Smart Love on podcast apps. Learn more about the podcast host Ruan Willow: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Ruan's anthology: Decadent Erotica An Anthology of 10 Tales of Extreme Sensuality, Indulgence, Dominance, & Submission. Universal link to the book: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/f96fc8e4-338f-11ed-9399-3b82020d795f Online sellers ebook: https://books2read.com/u/mZEQvJ Coming in paperback to online sellers 10/22/2022 Welcome to my podcast! Leave  a voicemail for me I'll answer you on the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/ohfckyeahwithruanwillow One of my favorite sex toys is the Zumi Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

11 Okt 202251min

Ep 197: Dark Erotica for Halloween The Femdom Coven erotica excerpt. Ruan narrates a part of her story, The Genie's Wish, from The Femdom Coven anthology book. This is the second book in the trilogy of anthologies. The final one will release Valentine's Day 2023. The first anthology with this group of authors was He Will Obey (see below for links to these books). The Genie's Wish is a dark erotic story of witch seduction and enchantment. Hanson is a college student. He is mesermized by the sexy coffee shop owner Goddess and under her spell, but he wants to be with her. More than anything he wants to have sex with Goddess, but sex with Goddess means something will be forever. What will Hanson choose? Get The Femdom Coven anthology here (Amazon affiliate): https://amzn.to/3ehqBsC The universal link to the book is here: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/8d4dfe86-7492-11ec-b3ef-dbe2da85bf64 The He Will Obey anthology (Amazon affiliate):  https://amzn.to/3rCbBsk The universal link to the book is here: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/1fd60b54-7493-11ec-b5c6-4712c13ec515 About Ruan To connect with podcast host Ruan Willow, visit here: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Get Ruan's Anthology, releasing October 22, 2022: Decadent Erotica An Anthology: 10 Tales of Extreme Sensuality, Indulgence, Dominance, and Submission affiliate universal book link to Amazon https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/f96fc8e4-338f-11ed-9399-3b82020d795f Universal book link to other online sellers: https://books2read.com/u/mZEQvJ Book Blurb: Decadent Erotica is an anthology to please your deepest desires. It's a book of ten erotic stories to quench your fantasies and will also satisfy, intrigue, and enflame your passion. This sexy book includes stories about a pleasure Dom with his sub where he's addicted to making her climax, a couple who succumbs to dark alley impromptu intimacy, naughty office oral fun between coworkers, sneaky and intense nighttime passion between a husband and wife, and a scorching hot coffee shop that pushes all the limits. Not only will those steamy tales light up your yummy alone reading time, but so will the short stories about taboo female domination, a morning filled with surprise skin-on-skin rubs, but also thong panties plucked from the kitchen cabinet as inspiration for intimate relations, and a threesome rendezvous in a dressing room where female-female-male means extreme pleasure taken while in semi-public. And last but not by any means least, excite yourself with an extremely hot orgy party story. Short story titles in this anthology: Ruan's Beach Getaway book by Ruan Willow A spicy age gap erotic romance novel where the couple enjoys their sexy time at the beach. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

7 Okt 202230min

Ep 196: Sexy Sweet & Hot Nothings by Ruan. Lots of little snippets of sexy hot micro erotic scenes. Enjoy the yummy ride with me! Listen and imagine, enjoy and satisfy, all the hot delicious sexy fun! Delve into the thick swollen ride with me as I spin little hot nothings for you, or maybe they are everythings! Ruan's Beach Getaway Erotic Romance Novella: In this erotic romance, which is filled with lots of sex between MILF Ruan and her younger lover, Sebastian, book 2 in the Ruan's Getaway Series finds our sexually experimenting couple at the ocean. This book contains spicy age-gap heterosexual sex scenes and softcore BDSM acts. Listen to an excerpt of this book here where Ruan gives Sebastian a blow job:  https://ohfckyeahwithruanwillow.buzzsprout.com/1599808/10787371-milf-ruan-her-younger-lover-at-the-beach-in-ruan-s-beach-getaway Get a copy of Ruan's Beach Getaway:You can find this book on sale at online sellers: https://books2read.com/u/m2eE6d And on Amazon  for any market in the world (affiliate): https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/c9fbb3e6-ddf1-11ec-b61c-5b8761feaf66 Get the first book Ruan's Cabin Getaway where Ruan and Sebastian have sex all over the cabin for a fuckfest weekend! https://books2read.com/u/4jgBE2 And on Apple and Kobo https://books2read.com/u/medqrV My podcast has been picked up by Full Swap Radio! It's an internet radio channel you can listen to within an app. Search for the free app Full Swap Radio to listen to my podcast and other sex-positive podcast shows. So many great ones there and I'm honored to be in their lineup: https://fullswapradio.com/  My episodes are currently set to air on Tuesdays at 6:30 pm CST and Wednesdays at 8:30 am. Podcast merchandise! Get shirts with Oh F*ck Yeah on them right here: https://www.bonfire.com/oh-fck-yeah/ One of my favorite sex toys is the Zumio. I'm an affiliate for them. September is sexual health month so buy one get one free. Find out why this is one of my top toys by getting more info on this sex toy here: https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1815950&u=3101443&m=98393&urllink=&afftrack= My pick for cleanliness for being intimate with wipes, click through the affiliate link and search for Before and After Wipes from Promescent: https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1516999&u=3101443&m=93613&urllink=&afftrack= Leave  a voicemail for me I'll answer you on the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/ohfckyeahwithruanwillow Hello! Welcome to my podcast! Connect with me here as well: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow My website: Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

4 Okt 202223min

Ep 195: Girl Sex, Communication & Sex, and Sexual Culture with Allison Moon. Allison is an author and sex educator.  She focuses on female sexuality, queer women, and communication tools and strategies for better sex and sexual relations. Her popular books Girl Sex 101 and Getting It are great tools to help people communicate about sex with others, shed shame, and rock a partner's sexual world.  Allison is very knowledgeable about sexual culture, queer sexuality, sexual citizenship, and sexual techniques/communication and has traveled around the US and Canada teaching people.  Today she shares all her incredible insights on my podcast! Allison's books are also great for heterosexual men who want to learn how to pleasure a woman like a lesbian, for those who wish to know about female pleasure and sexual anatomy, and how to best communicate about (and during) sex. Allison talked about how there is power in normalizing eroticism and sex, and that talking about sex is a great way to do that. Our society is currently trying to hide sex, so in talking about sex, we can combat this. Allison gave some fabulous tangible tips and scripts for ways to do sexy and hot communication and provide advocacy of our needs during sex. We also talked about when a partner crosses sexual boundaries and what ensues. Allison and I talked about how female sexual anatomy is not only ignored but hidden from the public, even in medical settings and with medical providers. The clit and the penis are the same, even in size, it's just that the clit is primarily an internal organ and the clitoral head is the only external part. Education, which includes anatomy, is essential for better sex for clit owners and reaching climaxing pleasure. She also talked about how feminist sex stores/sex-positive sex stores, are great resources for people for not only products but in talking with and learning from sex store retail and teaching staff. Find a store near you to visit! Check her website for a guide to finding one. Allison's Books (affiliate links): Girl Sex 101 https://amzn.to/3CmTM6R Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame Free Sex https://amzn.to/3RqmurC Connect with Allison and learn more at: https://girlsex101.com/ Learn more about the podcast host Ruan Willow: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Ruan's anthology: Decadent Erotica An Anthology of 10 Tales of Extreme Sensuality, Indulgence, Dominance, & Submission. Universal link to the book: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/f96fc8e4-338f-11ed-9399-3b82020d795f Online sellers ebook: https://books2read.com/u/mZEQvJ Coming in paperback to online sellers 10/22/2022 Welcome to my podcast! Leave  a voicemail for me I'll answer you on the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/ohfckyeahwithruanwillow One of my favorite sex toys is the Zumio. I'm an affiliate for them. September is sexual health month so buy one get one free. Find out why this is one of my top toys by getting more info on this sex toy here: https: Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

30 Sep 20221h 22min

Ep 194: Their First Orgy Sex Party An Excerpt from Decadent Erotica by Ruan Willow. This episode has been sponsored by The Premium Reviewer. Find them online at thepremiumreviewer dot com for reviews of XXX content. In this episode, I narrate an excerpt from my new erotic anthology:  Decadent Erotica An Anthology: 10 Tales of Extreme Sensuality, Indulgence, Dominance, and Submission affiliate universal book link to Amazon https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/f96fc8e4-338f-11ed-9399-3b82020d795f Universal book link to other online sellers: https://books2read.com/u/mZEQvJ Book Blurb: Decadent Erotica is an anthology to please your deepest desires. It's a book of ten erotic stories to quench your fantasies and will also satisfy, intrigue, and enflame your passion. This sexy book includes stories about a pleasure Dom with his sub where he's addicted to making her climax, a couple who succumbs to dark alley impromptu intimacy, naughty office oral fun between coworkers, sneaky and intense nighttime passion between a husband and wife, and a scorching hot coffee shop that pushes all the limits. Not only will those steamy tales light up your yummy alone reading time, but so will the short stories about taboo female domination, a morning filled with surprise skin-on-skin rubs, but also thong panties plucked from the kitchen cabinet as inspiration for intimate relations, and a threesome rendezvous in a dressing room where female-female-male means extreme pleasure taken while in semi-public. And last but not by any means least, excite yourself with an extremely hot orgy party story. Get this compilation of steamy spicy short stories from Ruan Willow all in one book. She's an erotica author, podcaster at Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow, sex blogger & influencer, and NSFW audiobook narrator. Some of these stories are also narrated by Ruan on the podcast. Check out her podcast which is free on podcast apps and on this site as well. Short story titles in this anthology: FFM Dressing Room Hookup Rendezvous Mallory and Derek Attend Their First Sex Party His and Her Sleepfucking, Nighttime Passion, Getting Fucked into the Afterglow Her Pleasure Dom Dark Alley Sex Getting Head at Work A Morning Tit Tuck Sweetened a Dreaded Day A Thong in the Kitchen Cupboard The Licking Sip Coffee Shop His Submission, She Dominated Him Out of a Speeding Ticket   A special thank you to this episode's sponsor The Premium Reviewer. About Ruan To connect with podcast host Ruan Willow, visit here: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow One of my favorite sex toys is the Zumio. I'm an affiliate for them. September is sexual health month so buy one get one free. Find out why this is one of my top toys by getting more info on this sex toy here: https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1815950&u=3101443&m= Podcast Merch! Wear Oh F*ck Yeah! Get Oh F*ck Yeah Podcast Merch T-shirts, tank tops, long sleeve shirts, mugs! Wear it sassy and hot! Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

27 Sep 202230min

Ep 193: Sex Positive Talk with the Sexuality Podcasters of the Full Swap Radio Internet Radio Station. Hey everyone! I have three epic sexuality podcasts to introduce you to! They are a part of the Full Swap Radio Internet Radio station network and family! I had so much fun chatting with all of these people! You will love the clips and then slip and slide on over to hear the full episode of each (links below). Who are they? Dear Nikky, Layla London of The Curious Girl Diaries, and the husband and wife team of Kyle and Lilly Canon at The Speak Seductively Podcasts. They are all fantastic and amazing, stupendous, and sexy hot as fck content creators! We are all on the internet radio station Full Swap Radio at https://fullswapradio.com/ Listen to their full episodes here: Ep 154: Real People Sex Confessions, A Sexy Chat with Podcaster Dear Nikky. Everyone this is an epic interview with the amazing podcaster Dear Nikky,  who not only hosts a very popular amazing award-winning real people sex confessions podcast & she's also a US and International best-selling author, but also she's a kickass awesome sexy babe as well! https://ohfckyeahwithruanwillow.buzzsprout.com/1599808/10733170-ep-154-sex-confessions-a-sexy-chat-with-podcaster-dear-nikky Ep 187: Two Female Podcasters Talk About Sex, Layla London of The Curious Girl Diaries & Ruan Willow. Layla is open about sexuality as I am so our chat went all over the topics of sexuality including women's sexuality, sex exploration, sex toys, the value of changing sexual positions with a partner and in solo play, and the different types of orgasms we've both experienced. Layla gives insight into sexual relations and masturbation in how to get out of your sexual rut and stave off the boringness of sex. She shares personal info about her sex life and what she thinks is the best lesson she's learned. https://ohfckyeahwithruanwillow.buzzsprout.com/1599808/11271006-two-female-podcasters-talk-about-sex-layla-london-of-the-curious-girl-diaries-ruan-willow Ep 75: BDSM Erotica Excerpt, the Swinging Lifestyle, & Erotica Author Interview with Kyle Canon,  and Voiceover Narrator Lilly Canon. An amazing episode! Listen as I interview this awesome sex-positive poly couple who work very well together as a team for creating content and running their podcast Speak Seductively.  https://ohfckyeahwithruanwillow.buzzsprout.com/1599808/9273560-ep-75-bdsm-erotica-excerpt-the-swinging-lifestyle-erotica-author-interview-with-kyle-canon-voiceover-narrator-lilly-canon About Ruan To connect with podcast host Ruan Willow, visit here: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Anthology novel Decadent Erotica with 10 erotica stories: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/f96fc8e4-338f-11ed-9399-3b8202 Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

23 Sep 202230min

Ep 192: Vagina/Yoni Mapping, Pleasure, Health, Wellness, & Empowerment with Freya Graf. This is an amazing episode for vagina owners and their partners! We can learn so much from Freya to improve our lives! Who is Freya Graf?Freya Graf is a Holistic Sex Educator & Coach and Yoni Mapping Therapist with a passion for holistic health and personal development.  She keeps it real, raw and relatable when it comes to talking about sex, relating and bodies, and is on a mission to dismantle the shame, taboo and stigma shrouding these important topics by having open and vulnerable conversations about them through her work with women and on her hilarious podcast The Labia Lounge.  With a background of study in Kahuna massage, yoni massage, facilitation, early learning, yoga teaching, tantric bodywork and sacred sexuality, Freya works to inspire, educate and empower, supporting you to cultivate a fulfilling and life-changing relationship with your body and sexuality!  Freya offers one-on-one Yoni Mapping Therapy sessions for vulva-owners, and online sex coaching and education programs for the whole gender spectrum. She has just launched an epic 3 month online course called Queen Out and pours her heart, soul and lots of laughter into her podcast The Labia Lounge where she interviews incredible guests about all things womanhood, sex, vaginas, relationships, holistic health and self development! Socials/Website: Insta - https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ Website - www.freyagraf.comYouTube - https://youtu.be/GQHZiC4FKos Course Queen Out https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/queen-the-fuck-out/learn-more/ Get $100 (10%) off the course.  Use code OHFUCKYEAH at checkout! Freya and I chatted about podcasting in the field of sexuality and the ability with podcasting to talk about taboo topics and to get open conversations going, which is so helpful for all people. She explains what Yoni mapping is because she's a Yoni Mapping Therapist. She focuses on female health using sex therapy, talk therapy, communications, and body work through massage and touch. She incorporates energy work and guided touch for vagina owners to learn more about their bodies, and their pleasure zones, for help with healing, and to help women explore their sexuality. She teaches clients about their pleasure anatomy and assists in 'waking up' numb areas. She helps women become aware of all of their parts by improving their body awareness. She focuses on pleasure, all types of pleasure. She also talks about what a crygasm is, helps women who have penetration fears, and promotes a healthy pelvic floor status for vagina owners.  She teaches about self-pleasure, and masturbation techniques, and helps women really get to know their internal vaginal anatomy and pleasure potential as well. Thank you for being on my podcast Freya and sharing your know Ruan's Beach Getaway book by Ruan Willow A spicy age gap erotic romance novel where the couple enjoys their sexy time at the beach. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

20 Sep 202258min

Ep 191: Doggy Shower Sex erotic story number 13 of the Sexual Bucket List series. This is a series where I do erotic improv where I spin an erotic tale right off the top of my head live as I record the episode. The erotic story is told in a combination of first person and second person, so it's "you" and "I" points of view. This is an early morning doggy shower sex date and it's wet, hot, and explosively satisfying! Have you listened to the rest of my Sexual Bucket List series? If you haven't caught it yet, check out my public playlists on Spotify and search for the Sexual Bucket List playlist. Here's the link: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1hzeldaHzbdsSsd22HF5eL?si=xOKVMM8uRguawUMJnaX8Bg One of my favorite sex toys, the one I mention in this episode is Zumio, whom I'm an affiliate for. September is sexual health month so buy one get one free. Find out why this is one of my top toys by getting more info on this sex toy here: https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1815950&u=3101443&m=98393&urllink=&afftrack= My pick for cleanliness for being intimate with wipes, click through the affiliate link and search for Before and After Wipes from Promescent: https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1516999&u=3101443&m=93613&urllink=&afftrack= My new anthology novel Decadent Erotica with 10 plus erotica stories in it: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/f96fc8e4-338f-11ed-9399-3b82020d795f Find all my links to my erotica/erotic romance books and audiobooks and my social media links here: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow My interview guest appearance on The Curious Girl Diaries Podcast with Layla London! Listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/erotic-stories/id1264706714?i=1000579772075 Visit my website to leave me a voicemail at https://ruanwillowauthor.com/ or visit this website to leave a voicemail for me and I'll answer you on the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/ohfckyeahwithruanwillow I hope you enjoyed this sexy little story and have a sexy day! Love ya! Ruan Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

16 Sep 202229min