The Mel Robbins Podcast22 Des 2025

You’ll Never See Your Family the Same After This Episode

If your family stirs up feelings - stress, guilt, grief - this episode is for you.

Whether you love spending time with them, can only handle them in small doses, or stay away for your own sanity, being around family has a way of pushing every button you’ve got.

That’s why Mel invited Dr. Mariel Buqué, a Columbia-trained psychologist and leading expert on family dynamics and generational patterns, to share the real reason why your family stresses you out.

Dr. Buqué will help you see how the home you grew up in and the role that you played in your family shaped you as a person.

She will also explain why the same tension, guilt, and arguments keep repeating year after year and how you can shift this dynamic.

In this episode, you’ll learn about:

-How no siblings grow up in the same family, and why it’s important to understand this

-The specific challenges and lasting impact of being an eldest daughter

-How women in particular absorb family stress, and the impact this can have on autoimmune diseases

-How family trauma can be passed down through generations until someone decides to break the cycle

-The impact on you of how your parents were parented

-Specific daily tools and tactics to use around your family

-How to do the work to heal yourself, even if others are not supportive

This conversation will give language to what you’ve been feeling for years and tools you can use immediately: at the table, on the phone, or in everyday life.

It’s an invitation to stop absorbing everyone else’s stress, see your family with clearer eyes, and protect your peace.

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If you liked the episode, check out this one next: The One Tool to Transform Your Relationships: The Let Them Theory

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