72: O is for Open Relating, Orgasms, Oral and Other Ohs…

We’re back with another juicy instalment of our T&A Alphabet Series! Many of these episodes began as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and this one has been freshly re-recorded, updated, and expanded just for you.

In this episode, we dive into the letter O — and yes, we save the biggest O for last 😉

O is for Open Relating, Orgasms, Oral, and Other Ohs…

We explore a wide range of O topics while providing thoughtful insights into each one, with a strong emphasis on consent, communication, and understanding. Along the way, we share personal experiences and offer practical, real-world advice to help you deepen intimacy, navigate complexity, and enhance pleasure in your relationships in ways that feel aligned and sustainable.

This episode covers:

• Open Relating – what it really means in practice
• Orgies – including consent in group settings
• Out & Outed – navigating visibility, disclosure, and choice
• Obligations – exploring both external expectations and self-imposed pressure
• Oral & Outercourse – expanding pleasure beyond penetration and performance

And finally, our perfectly timed CLIMAX: ORGASMS ✨

We talk about what orgasms actually are, different types of orgasms, what happens in the body when we orgasm, facts and myths, faking it, common challenges, and what you can do to increase pleasure — with or without orgasm as the goal.

Equal parts educational, playful, and grounding, this episode supports listeners who are exploring relationship dynamics, strengthening intimacy, or simply wanting better conversations about sex, pleasure, and connection.

📖 Episode Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

02:22 Open Relating Definition

03:10 Orgies & Consent

04:48 Being Out and Outed

09:08 Understanding Obligations in Relationships

09:55 Oral Sex

12:37 Outer Course

14:46 Understanding Orgasms & The Types of Orgasms

20:56 What Happens to Your Brain & Body During Orgasm

24:23 Studies and Facts about Orgasms

30:22 Faking It

34:00 Techniques for Enhancing Pleasure

37:58 Sensate Focus and Intimacy

39:45 The Importance Self-Exploration & Masterbation

42:08 Conclusion and Call to Action

Show Resources:

• Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
• Looking for therapy? Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠
• Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠

• C is for Consensual Non-Monogamy episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4QjdNH6LdaYqOgFaaFMqja?si=FBh6ICbDQB-Fgo9SUd6jhA
• How We Love: What Style of Non-Monogamy is for Me? https://open.spotify.com/episode/2wQiiMrHCFltYorI7bdEGs?si=2rVxqTliScODBUqIJ4TuMA
• What Style of Non-Monogamy is for Me Free Worksheet - https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/cnmstyle
• Why Enthusiastic Consent is So Important - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2RzCDuhK9yMM3GgkU5ebPg?si=C87tjthIRY2Ro8KANTnE_w
• A is for Anorgasmia Episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/1oBt1yFEfFsnCUGzTRmF8p?si=Nyjkx7KeRc6YZns0wxdjKQ
• How to Talk to Family About Being Polyamorous - Tara & Andre preparing for Tara’s coming out to parents - https://youtu.be/UxYecGOZ3WY?si=VzvgfmS8SSuuufqB
• 3 Minute Game - https://www.schoolofconsent.org/blog/3-minute-game
• Sensate Focus Article - https://www.smsna.org/patients/did-you-know/what-is-sensate-focus-and-how-does-it-work