Ask Uncut -My Train Of Thought Is Not Normal
Life Uncut9 Mar 2025

Ask Uncut -My Train Of Thought Is Not Normal

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep and burning questions. Britt is broken from dancing and we decided it was the right time to have a bit of an intervention with her. She is upset by Laura and Keeshia going behind her back but they're sticking to their nostrils.

Vibes for the week:
Britt and Laura - Devil in the family on Disney plus
Keeshia - Koala Luxe Mattress

Then we jump into your questions!

HOW DO I GET MY IDENTITY BACK AS A MUM?
I want to start off by saying I absolutely love being a mum and I am grateful everyday that I have two beautiful girls. This didn’t come easy for my partner and I and had a few losses along our journey. My question is how do you find your identity after becoming a mum? My youngest is 12 weeks old and oldest is 2 and right now my life is consumed with being a mum. I feel a bit lost and find myself missing who I was before. I avoid mirrors when I can because I don’t recognise the person looking back at me. I want to be the best role model for my girls and I’m worried if I can’t find myself again I won’t be able to do this for them. During the labour of my second I was listening to random episodes of the Podcast to take my mind off the contractions. I didn’t realise I still had my headphones on when I started to push and my daughter was born to the sound of Britt's laugh!

SHOULD I HOOK UP WITH HIM AGAIN AFTER I SH*T DURING SEX?
My ex and I broke up in October. Recently, we’ve been reconnecting for a bit of company and casual fun. Last weekend, I popped over to his place for a chill lunch hangout, which of course eventually led to some steamy playtime. It was one of those really hot days, so we decided to have a shower session. Things got hot and steamy, and he started touching me in all the right places with his hand. As things really started to heat up I said “Fuck me!” He replied with a cautious “babe,” but when I turned back - I was hit with a shock I’ll never forget. His finger was covered in a thick smear of gooey, brown diarrhoea. It was my first time experiencing such an unsexy disaster, and needless to say, I was mortified. We quickly washed off, agreeing that “we can’t come back from this one.” Now it’s become a core memory I can’t shake. So here’s my dilemma: should I put the brakes on our casual escapades, or might a second round (with a strategic bathroom break this time) help us wipe the slate clean?

HOW TO TELL MY HUSBAND HE HAS NEVER MADE ME COME?
I’m a female, married and am in my late 20’s. I’ve always enjoyed sex, but as I’ve gotten older, my sex drive has declined. This has become a point of tension in my marriage, as my husband has always maintained his sex drive. In an effort to reconnect with my body and bring some excitement back into our sex life, I recently bought my first vibrator. While exploring, I made an embarrassing discovery—I’ve never actually orgasmed from my husband or most past partners, and I’ve always wondered if I even could. However, I did experience it once with a previous partner, which has made this realisation even more confusing. Now, I’ve learned that I can do it myself, and I don’t quite know how to process that. I love my husband deeply, and I know this revelation would hurt him. I don’t want him to feel inadequate, but I also want to be honest so that we can improve our intimacy together. How do I approach this conversation?

HOLIDAY WITH FRIEND OR SEE LONG DIST POTENTIAL LOML?
Last year I went on a uni exchange. In the last few weeks there I met a British guy who I genuinely believe could be my person. Since then we have kept in contact, and have met in Bali and again back in the uk for a few weeks later in the year. My dilemma now is that I have agreed to go on a cruise with my friend in April. For context with this friend: she has been my best friend for a few years but because of some things that happened last year, she now lives with my ex boyfriend (of four years) and a few other people who don’t run in my circle anymore. This has made our relationship challenging recently and this cruise (with her entire family) could really be a make or break situation for us. HOWEVER - I have just found out that this is the only time in the entire year (he studies med and gets little holidays) that my British boy would be able to come out and visit for a few weeks. Having the cruise smack bang in the middle of these weeks means that the trip wouldn’t be worth the money for him if I’m only going to be there half the time (we’re broke uni students!!!). SO my question is: how terrible of a friend am I, and/or will this ruin my friendship if I prioritise seeing the potential love of my life over this cruise with my best friend?Also a bit more context: she was SO excited when I told her I was going to come on the cruise, and has not been overly supportive of this British man I’ve been obsessing over. So I really feel like me doing this would be taken very personally and I’m worried that we potentially won’t fully come back from it. But it also feels like if I can take the opportunity to see him then I should.

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11 Des 202551min

Some BIG Changes Are Coming 🇮🇹 & Maybe You're Feeling 'Time Sick'?

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9 Des 202555min

Ask Uncut - Long Lost Biological Relatives

Ask Uncut - Long Lost Biological Relatives

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions. There are two types of people in the world - the ones who shut down their laptop and the ones who never, ever, ever do unless it runs out of battery. Further on this path, are you the type of person who has an ‘order’ that you like your tabs to be in? Vibes and unsubscribes for the week: Laura - Christmas trivia Keeshia - @scotteeisfat Britt - Allison after NXIVM from Uncover Podcast Then we jump into your questions! IS TAKING FOOD HOME FROM A DINNER PARTY RUDE?I’d love your thoughts on something that happened at my annual Potluck-Style Movie Night and Dinner Party. I host this every year for 6–8 friends, and I usually provide homemade pizzas, drinks, and an appetiser. Everyone else brings a small dish or extra snacks for the movie. This year, one friend brought cheeses and crackers and told us to keep the leftovers—great! But at the end of the night, another couple (two of my closest friends) went into the fridge, took back the drinks they brought, and packed up the dessert they had made. Here’s the question: What’s the etiquette for a potluck-style dinner party? Is it rude to take home what you brought, or is that perfectly okay? For context, this couple is extremely wealthy—but maybe that doesn’t matter? I’d love to hear your take on this. Am I overthinking it, or is this a social faux pas. I WANT SOMETHING BACK FROM MY EXLadies, I am in a little pickle-dickle and would love your thoughts on the route forward. Now, for context, I am a solo Mama that has recently ended a 3 year relationship with a solo Dad. We both have children of ages sentient enough to feel a loss here, so this was a well-thought through decision on my part, based on repeated avoidant patterns and lack of communication. He did not take it well and proceeded to block all communication herein. No worries, his prerogative. My conundrum is that he has a few things of mine I would like back, including a brand new motorcycle helmet I know he was envious of and is likely now using for himself and my 8 y/o’s scooter. I cannot contact him at all as far as I understand. My daughter’s father, with whom I have an excellent relationship with, has offered to message him to collect it... However I feel that looks really petty and like I am pitting two burly dudes against each other so I politely declined. His wife also offered to reach out....again, I don’t feel great about asking someone else to do my dirty-work. What would you do? Snail mail? Show up unannounced (which I do not feel particularly safe about doing…so that is all but off the table), message one of his family members? Or cut my losses…even though I hate the fact he is very likely wearing my shiny-new helmet and giving his kids my daughter’s electric scooter. GAY MAN - WHO SHOULD I GO FOR? I’m a 26 y/o gay male who’s been going on lots of dates after a bit of a romance slump, and now I’m seeing two guys and getting to the point where I need to choose who to keep pursuing. Guy 1: 26, lives super close (very convenient), but doesn’t have stable work, only gets a few event shifts, and isn’t really working toward any study or long-term career goals. Guy 2: 28, lives much further away, works as a podiatrist and is also doing his PhD. Me: I’m 26, a speech pathologist, and hoping to move into more acute hospital/rehab work in the next year. I’m attracted to both, and the chemistry is pretty equal, maybe slightly stronger with Guy 1, but I’m stuck on who fits better long-term. They are both great and although chemistry is stronger with Guy 1 the lack of career drive makes me nervous, Guy 2 seems like a safer option but travel considerations and the chemistry is just a bit lower. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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The Best Of The Pick Up - A Testy Was Sacrificed To The Trampoline

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How The 'Law Of Detachment' Led Maddy Macrae To Being A Viral Content Creator!

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Today we’re sitting down with someone who went from aspiring acting and hospo shifts to viral content creator and comedy queen. Maddy MacRae is someone whose face and skits are likely familiar to you. She’s grown a following of 3 million people collectively across social media. Today we wanted to talk to Maddy about how she carved out her own path in acting, what some of the realities of content creation are like and the ever evolving goal posts of content that had her living in an airport for a week! We chat: How Maddy got the career she has and the commercials that led her there What her first viral video wants The law of detachment and how it impacted Maddy’s life The one reality TV show Maddy would love to do Content fatigue and being in a period of burnout The contrast of having an amazing job but the loneliness and isolation that comes from it The current dating scene The post that Maddy really regrets You can follow Maddy on Instagram And on tiktok You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Going No-Contact. Self Preservation Or Selfish?

Going No-Contact. Self Preservation Or Selfish?

Hey Lifers! We have a new drinking game for you all based on our individual ‘habits’ (flaws) and Ben has a very important question for Keeshia that could tear the team apart. Black Friday sales have got the better of some of us and Britt has a nice challenge for Laura during the busiest time of her year. Laura’s really showcasing how different things can be for the 3rd kid. Poppy’s actual birth date and full name are TBC. Britt shares a crazy story about how her dad spent most of his life not knowing his age! In a recent episode of Oprah’s podcast, Oprah tackled the rise of “going no contact” where adult children cut ties with parents or family. Is it destroying families, or is an act of ultimate self preservation and protecting your mental health? We speak about: The conversation around emotional safety, mental health and boundaries has changed What was once taboo (cutting ties with parents) is now being discussed openly — especially by our generations There doesn’t seem to be a line in the sand for what is and what is not ‘valid’ for going no contact Why family are the only people we are ‘willing’ to accept bad behaviour from Have we gone too far with ‘boundary’ talk/ don’t have enough grace for our parents? If validation and self reflection are the only solution You can watch the whole episode of ‘Oprah Explores the Rising Trend of Going No Contact with Your Family’ If you’d like to listen to a previous episode where we spoke about estrangement, you can here: Narcissistic parents Sam FischerEm Carey Bridget Hustwaite Melissa Leong You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2 Des 202556min

Ask Uncut - He Throws Tantrums When I Say No

Ask Uncut - He Throws Tantrums When I Say No

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions with the best advice we can! Britt is waving the manifestation wand after receiving a lovely message from one of our lifers! Vibes and unsubscribes for the week:Laura - Unsubscribing shellac nailsKeeshia - Unsubscribing iOS 26 update Vibing Elizabeth Gilbert “All The Way To The River” Britt - Morning Wars Season 4 on Apple TV Then we jump into your questions: HUSBAND DESPERATE FOR ANAL SEX BUT I HATE IT - HOW TO COMPROMISE?My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 5 years, have 3 kids under 5, both running businesses; so chaotic times. This year my husband has been obsessed with getting me to have anal sex to “spice things up”. I have always been a firm no but have recently caved a few times to try it after so much hassling and trying to keep the peace. But I honestly fucking hate it! It hurts, it is not pleasurable and grosses me out. He loved it. My question is how do we compromise on this? I am now fearful of it if he brings it up because if I say no he just throws a temper tantrum. I have tried to have an honest conversation with him about the fact it really hurts me however he feels it’s just something I will get used to. I honestly feel like this is a him problem, he needs to suck it up the fact I’ve had 3 kids and I may not be as tight as it once was. But is there also another side I’m not seeing where I should try to consider his pleasure in this? MY NEW RECEPTIONIST HAS SLEPT WITH MY PARTNER YEARS AGO AND NEITHER OF THEM TOLD ME I’ve got a sticky situation which I need to unpack. I’ve been with my partner for the past 4 years, we have a great relationship and have just bought our first home together. I work in the medical field and have a new receptionist that started with us 4 months ago. We’ve been getting along really well and it wasn’t until today we had a long conversation making connections about people we knew in town, until she then dropped the bomb that she slept with my partner 5-6yrs ago! Now I’ve been talking about my partner like she didn’t know him and I’ve also been talking about my new receptionist to my partner for the past few months and he never mentioned it. I was initially shocked and kinda laughed about it. She said she wanted to say something in case someone else ever said anything. When I asked my partner about it, I was laughing the whole time (low key because I’m not good at having tricky conversations) and we both just felt weird at the end. He said he wasn’t ever going to say anything because it didn’t mean anything which I totally get but I kinda feel dumb being the one who didn’t know anything…. I’m after advice on how I should feel because I don’t know if I’m being dramatic in this situation. MY FRIEND KEEPS LYING TO ME ABOUT COSMETIC SURGERY So I have a friend that I’ve been friends with since Uni days. For context, we’ve been friends for 15 years now. I know her very, very well and I also know what she looks like. Over the last few years she’s been getting quite a few cosmetic procedures which is great, she looks amazing. The problem is that she always seems to lie about it. Most recently we went out for dinner together and it was very evident that she had her lips done. Now we’re sitting at dinner and I said “oh my gosh, you got your lips done. They look great.” To be fair, they actually didn’t look that great just yet because they were still swollen which is what I mean by the fact that it was very evident. As she has responded to every single other question that I have had around whether or not she’s had any procedures she said “no I didn’t” in almost an offended tone. I don’t care at all. I’m actually all for it if she wants to get anything done; I’ve had my boobs done. But it’s just surprising to me that she feels the need to continuously lie about it. Is it something I should bring up with her or just let it go? LOSING ATTRACTIONWhat to do about losing attraction? I have recently realised I have lost my attraction / desire towards my partner. In particular he doesn’t put any effort into grooming, so his beard is always scraggly, and he doesn’t shave his neck. In addition he doesn’t dress well, he doesn’t care about clothes so he often wears clothes that have holes in them (from having them for so long) or don’t look good on him. Now I love him so much, we get along so well, we have the same interests, goals, and he makes me laugh. We have been together for 4 years and we have a house and a dog together. When we first got together these traits were the same, so nothing has changed other than I think at the start I let it not get to me because I was so happy to have met someone who ticked all the rest off and didn’t want to be superficial. Now however I have lost my sex drive (which used to be high) and we barely have sex - like once a month - and I think it’s because of losing desire towards him. How do I bring this up with my partner without sounding like an asshole… because I truly do love him so much, I just wish he put more effort into how he looked. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

30 Nov 202556min

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