Projection

Sometimes the thing we fixate on in our partners is actually something we do, too. What if we responded to our partners the way we want them to respond to us? Magic could happen.

Many of my episodes use my personal stories as reference for lessons and teachings, and today's episode is no different, if maybe even more personal. I'm unscripted and opening up to you about a breakthrough that we've had in our relationship.

My husband and I have different expectations and experiences from our families of origin. Every family has dysfunction, and every family has trauma.

Listen in on our efforts to conquer intergenerational trauma, and refuse to pass down our baggage, and our parents' hurt, and our grandparents' struggles, and so on, to the next generation.

Links: Unwavering 2026 has started but it is NOT too late to join us! ➡️ Unwavering is a year-long mentorship designed to get you to stop reacting to every intrusive thought about your relationship and creating unnecessary emotional turmoil. The structure is three 8-week seasonal "trimesters" (Anxious to Spacious, Tension of Opposites, and Rewriting History) plus: - a year of chat support with me and my co-teacher Stefi - discounted 1:1s with us - optional monthly workshops/Q&As Sign up for Unwavering (the whole year with 3 trimesters) here. Sign up for Anxious to Spacious (trimester 1) here. Wisio Patreon

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Postpartum rage

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How having grace helped us survive the first year of parenthood.

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