Dating Expert Sabrina Zohar: You’re Not Confused, You’re Ignoring the Signs (THIS Mindset Shift Will End the “What If” Loop for Good)

Why do we chase people who don’t choose us, confuse anxiety for attraction, and stay in relationships that leave us questioning our worth? Today, Jay sits down with Sabrina Zohar, podcast host and one of the most influential voices in modern dating, to unpack the emotional patterns that quietly shape how we love. Drawing from her own healing journey and work with thousands of clients, Sabrina explains how our childhood experiences, nervous system responses, and unhealed wounds influence who we’re drawn to often without us realizing it. Together, Jay and Sabrina explore what emotional availability really looks like, why consistency matters more than intensity, and how boundaries aren’t about pushing people away but protecting your peace. They break down common dating traps, from overanalyzing texts to mistaking butterflies for chemistry, and reveal why self-advocacy is one of the most important relationship skills we’re never taught. Through practical insights and deeply personal stories, Sabrina shows why asking for what you need isn’t “too much,” and why love should feel safe, not confusing. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stop Chasing People Who Don’t Choose You How to Date Without Abandoning Yourself How to Set Boundaries Without Fear of Losing Someone How to Recognize Emotional Availability Early How to Break the Cycle of Situationships How to Ask for What You Need Without Feeling “Too Much” How to Stop Confusing Intensity for Intimacy You don’t need to chase clarity, overperform for love, or silence your needs to be chosen. Real connection begins when you feel safe enough to be honest, brave enough to set boundaries, and grounded enough to walk away from what doesn’t honor you. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:01 How to Tell If Someone Is Truly Interested 02:52 Why You Date the Parts of You That Aren’t Healed 06:04 Understanding Your Emotional State Before You Date 07:59 Don’t Ignore These Red Flags! 10:33 What Should a Healthy, Secure Relationship Feel Like? 13:34 Why Slowing Down Creates Real Connection 20:07 What’s Really Draining You About Dating? 24:09 Your Partner Will Trigger You, That’s Okay! 29:03 Building a Strong Foundation for Dating 32:45 How to Advocate for Yourself Without Fear of Losing Them 39:20 Are You Feeling Alone? 42:03 How to Spot Emotional Unavailability Early 44:51 Why Boundaries Are Non-Negotiable 46:56 How to Be Honest About Your Feelings 50:20 How to Communicate Your Needs Clearly 54:52 Why Relationships Must Support Growth 56:57 Timing Is Not a Reason to Hold On 59:23 Texting Etiquette in Modern Dating 01:12:33 Why Real Change Takes Time and Practice 01:18:36 Dating Rapid Fire Episode Resources: Website | https://www.sabrinazohar.com/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@sabrina_zohar TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrina.zohar Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/p/The-Sabrina-Zohar-Show-100094409286590/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices