39: GUEST | Kayce Hodos on Postpartum, Identity Loss, and Giving Moms Permission to Hate the Hard Parts

In this episode, we’re talking SHIFT with therapist Kayce Hodos—an expert in perinatal mental health and someone who’s deeply unafraid to tell the truth about motherhood.

Together, we dismantle the myths that keep parents isolated: the pressure to feel instant love, the shame of postpartum identity loss, the fantasy that becoming a parent will heal your wounds instead of exposing them. Kayce opens up about her own postpartum experience, what she wishes she had known, and how the system continues to fail parents (especially moms) in their most vulnerable moments.

We talk depression, rage, resentment, marriage, missed expectations, and the raw, invisible grief of becoming someone new. This isn’t about fear-mongering—it’s about giving parents informed consent on what’s actually ahead.

This one’s honest, gutting, and empowering as hell. If you’re a parent, a partner, or someone who wants to do better by the people raising the next generation… hit play.

You’ll hear:

00:00 Meet Kayce Hodos: therapist, mom, and truth-teller

02:30 The postpartum experience no one warned us about

07:10 Identity crisis: “I didn’t know who I was anymore”

14:00 Breastfeeding, blood, and being blindsided by motherhood

24:10 Why moms feel failed—and how society gaslights their pain

31:00 When support comes too late (and what that costs us)

38:00 Marital conflict, identity death, and survival mode

56:15 The shit no one says—but everyone feels

01:01:00 Advice for partners who want to support struggling moms

01:04:30 Pride, painkillers, and why asking for help feels so damn hard

This one’s not about judgment—it’s about truth. Motherhood doesn’t fix you. It reveals you.

If you’ve ever felt like you're unraveling in a role that was supposed to make you whole… this episode is for you.

🎧 Listen. Share. And send this to someone who deserves to hear they’re not failing—they’re just feeling the full truth of it all.

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