40: What I Wish I Knew About Attachment Style Before I Became A Parent (& Happy Mother's Day!)

You aren't broken. You've been wired—long before you had a choice in the matter. And now? You’re likely parenting from that same wiring, wondering why it feels so damn hard to stay steady.

This episode is about naming what actually drives our reactions as parents—and why it’s not a lack of love, but unhealed attachment wounds. If you’ve ever wondered why you spiral, shut down, smother, or second-guess yourself constantly, this one’s going to hit home.

It’s not just you. It’s your wiring. And the best news? Patterns are programmable.

This is your crash course on attachment, parenting, and what it means to rewire in real time—and it sets the stage for an incredible conversation coming Thursday with therapist and attachment specialist Bev Mitelman. Don’t miss it.

In this episode, we talk SHIFT about:

00:01 → Welcome to SHIFT Talking: The Mother's Day episode you didn’t know you needed

01:32 → What if your parenting struggles aren’t personal—they’re patterned?

03:50 → Understanding insecure attachment (and why nearly half of us have it)

05:35 → Anxious, avoidant, disorganized: How each style impacts your kids

07:12 → Generational coding: You’re not just parenting—you’re reliving your childhood

10:20 → The stress, the shame, the science: Cortisol and insecure connection

13:25 → It’s not your fault—but it is your responsibility

15:52 → The SHIFT framework: A steady path to rewiring your reactions

19:57 → Coming Thursday: Attachment healing with therapist Bev Mitelman

Join the Parental SHIFT if you’re ready to stop parenting from a trauma loop—and start leading from a steady, secure core.

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