54: GUEST | From Breakdown to Breakthrough: Masculinity, Sobriety & The Cost of Becoming Who You Really Are with Alan Lazaros

What happens when you build a life that looks “successful”—but feels like hell?

In this raw, real, and soul-punching conversation, Davina sits down with business coach and podcaster Alan Lazaros to talk SHIFT about masculinity, emotional honesty, and what it takes to actually grow without selling your soul. From childhood trauma and identity loss to marriage, sobriety, and the silent suffering men face, this episode is a masterclass in owning your truth—even when the world isn’t ready for it.

No predatory sales pitches. No performance bullshit. Just two humans telling the truth.

⏱️ In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:

03:00 – Why parenting wrecks identity and how that affects men differently

10:00 – Alan’s story: childhood loss, trauma, and the pursuit of external validation

14:00 – The car crash that rewired his entire life

24:00 – Why most people fail at growth—and how ethical coaches can change that

35:00 – Davina’s origin story: debt, manipulation, and rebuilding with integrity

45:00 – Masculinity, therapy, and why men fear softness

58:00 – Parenting boys without raising future fuckboys

1:04:00 – Dick-measuring culture and what real masculinity looks like

1:17:00 – School talks, self-worth, and what ego really protects

1:24:00 – What it means to grow together—or be left behind

🎙️ About Alan Lazaros

Alan Lazaros is the co-founder and host of Next Level University, a global podcast and coaching company dedicated to holistic personal development. With over 7,000 hours of 1:1 coaching and a no-BS, metrics-driven approach, Alan helps people grow in health, wealth, love, and life. He’s also a recovered workaholic, sober fitness model, and emotional regulation advocate who isn’t afraid to admit: he used to be a fuckboy too.

👉 Connect with Alan:

• nextleveluniverse.com
• Podcast: Next Level University
• IG: @alazaros88

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