39. Samantha Spiro: When Pain Isn’t Met, Love Collapses

39. Samantha Spiro: When Pain Isn’t Met, Love Collapses

We’re taught how to perform, succeed, and compete, but not how to handle emotional pain.


In this first part of my conversation with Samantha Spiro, we explore what actually happens when pain shows up in relationships, in the nervous system, in the body and in moments where connection quietly begins to disappear.


This is not a conversation about fixing relationships or decoding men and women.

It’s about capacity. About how unprocessed pain turns into self-protection, distance, and emotional shutdown and why love often collapses not because desire disappears, but because pain isn’t met.


We talk about early heartbreak, emotional conditioning, and how many of us learned to protect instead of staying present when something hurts.


This is part one of a two-part conversation.

In part two, we’ll explore what actually changes when someone learns to stay.


A gift for 34O listeners:


Samantha Spiro is offering a special for listeners of this podcast, a 2-hour Deep Dive Session with a week of text support, at a 15% discount.


This is for those who feel ready to work more intimately with what came up in this conversation. Go to https://samspiro.com/contact/ and refer to code ”34o2026” for the discount

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