Being Hot & Having Fun w/Amber Akilla

In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, your hosts Lisa, Sovereign, and Gwen are joined by special guest Amber Akilla! Amber is a DJ, online personality, and unapologetic advocate of living authentically. In this epsiode, Amber shares her philosophy of being hot and having fun, centering confidence, independence, and self-acceptance as tools for empowerment.

But first, in Tea Time, the hosts break down Judge Judy’s advice that women should always have their own money, Ciara adding Russell Wilson’s last name to Future Jr, how men are currently ruining nightlife, and Druski’s viral NASCAR appearance. In Mailbag, they respond to a listener navigating men’s expectations of women in public conversations.

🎧 This episode is all about embracing joy, confidence, and authenticity, and how women can decenter the male gaze to build lives filled with fun, creativity, and power.

🎙️ Topics Discussed:

• Amber Akilla’s philosophy of being hot and having fun
• Why women should always keep financial independence
• Nightlife and how male behavior changes women’s experiences
• Exercise, movement, and dance as self-care beyond weight loss
• Decentering men and embracing authentic confidence
• Living authentically and learning from failure

✨ Links and Resources Mentioned: Ciara Adds Russell Wilson’s Last Name to Son https://www.vibe.com/news/entertainment/ciara-added-wilson-to-son-futures-last-name-years-ago-1235106568/

Men Are Ruining Nightlife! https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT6nkywHc/

Druski Goes Viral https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/celebrity/articles/druski-faces-backlash-whiteface-nascar-183429728.html

📚 This Week’s Recommendation: FREE EBOOK: The Shopping List Your Mother Owes You by Mide Yussuff https://dunnmade.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/the-list-your-mother-owes-you-by-mide-yussuff-1-flat-1.pdf

Beauty Fades, Dumb Is Forever: The Making of a Happy Woman by Judy Sheindlin https://a.co/d/caB4MIz

Follow Amber! @AmberAkilla everywhere

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🕰️ Episode Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Tea Time! 03:09 Judge Judy’s Advice For Women 08:34 Ciara Changes Son’s Last Name 13:42 Men Are Ruining Nightlife! 22:26 Druski’s Whiteface at NASCAR 24:47 Welcome Amber Akilla! 27:30 Amber’s Journey and Philosophy 31:04 Defining Being Hot and Having Fun 41:30 Movement and Exercise as Self-Care 52:20 The Balance of Consumption and Contribution 01:00:59 Living Authentically: Advice for Young Women 01:10:16 Decentering Men, Self-Perception and Confidence 01:17:28 Embracing Failure and the Journey 01:24:54 Mailbag: Forced Politeness In Shared Spaces 01:36:30 Poll Results: The "Manosphere" Algorithms

🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr, The Sovereign Woman, and Gwen. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.

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