Red Flags, Green Flags & Learning to Trust Yourself Again with Justin Smith

Guest: Justin Smith, Founder of the Cray App

After a long-term relationship ends, getting back out there isn't just about meeting someone new — it's about learning to trust yourself again. This week, Melie sits down with Justin Smith, the creator of the Cray app, who built it after the end of his own relationship. Instead of just moving on, Justin wanted to understand why we miss the warning signs while we're still inside a relationship, and how to help others recognize them earlier.

This conversation is full of honest, practical wisdom for anyone navigating the dating world after heartbreak.

🔗 Links & Resources

Download the Cray App: https://cray.app/

In This Episode, We Talk About:

Justin's personal story: what led him to ultimately build the Cray app
How the Cray app works
Why love bombing is so hard to resist — especially when you're freshly heartbroken
The question everyone should ask before jumping back into dating: Am I actually ready?
Why your "picker" might feel broken — and how trauma, past relationships, and attachment patterns can quietly shape who we're drawn to
The red flag hiding in plain sight: how someone handles conflict tells you everything
Stonewalling, validation, and what healthy communication actually looks like
How to protect your personal information (location, phone number, social media) when getting to know someone new
The difference between a red flag and a green flag — and why some people mix them up
Justin's upcoming Bae Score feature: the six qualities that make a genuinely healthy partner
Why going into new social situations with the sole goal of finding a partner can backfire
The underrated value of hobbies for rebuilding your life and your social world after a breakup

About Justin Smith

Justin Smith is the founder of the Cray app, a relationship safety tool designed to help people identify red flags, verify potential partners, and protect themselves while dating. After navigating the end of a significant relationship, Justin channeled his experience into building tools that help others avoid the patterns he missed.

Download the Cray App: https://cray.app/

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