167 | The Weird Confidence Trick That Actually Works

Is there something at work you know you’re capable of… but in the moment, your nerves take over?

Whether it’s speaking up in a meeting, handling a difficult conversation, or stepping into a high-pressure situation - that disconnect between what you can do and how you feel can be incredibly frustrating.

In this episode of HR Coffee Time, I share a simple but slightly unusual technique that can help you feel calmer, more in control, and more confident when it matters most.

It's called 'distanced self-talk', and it might feel a bit strange at first – but it’s backed by research and can make a real difference in those moments where your confidence wobbles.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

Why confidence can disappear in high-pressure moments
A simple technique that helps you step back from anxious thoughts
How this approach can reduce nerves and help you think more clearly
Practical ways to use it before and during challenging situations at work
Real examples of when to try it – including meetings, presentations, and interviews

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Chatter: The Voice in Our Head (And How to Harness It) – by Ethan Kross

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