SS 150: Dealing With Shame Around Sexuality, Swinging, & Polyamory With Guest Charlie Glickman

SS 150: Dealing With Shame Around Sexuality, Swinging, & Polyamory With Guest Charlie Glickman

Shame, it creeps up on us, sometimes out of nowhere and sometimes as a slow buildup but it can affect our sexuality in ways we don't expect and don't want. Sometimes tackling shame head on helps, sometimes not addressing it at all helps, but shame when tied in to the wonderful world of non-monogamy can be complex and disconcerting to your multiple partners. Charlie Glickman joins us to help sort out the why, the how, the what, and ways we can process and deal with shame in thoughtful and effective ways so we can get back to doing what most of us really want to do... fucking multiple partners.

We hit some major points along the discussion. Using the word should implies shame, it implies judgment, that I know better than you. When we react to shame it reinforces that shame. Keep heavy conversations and fights out of the bedroom. Also keep televisions and smartphones out of the bedroom. Go for a walk together instead, being side by side can disarm adversarial feelings that can creep up from being face to face, aka: Ginger's "side to side not nose to nose" philosophy.

Resources on exploring shame:

Sharon Ellison: Taking the War Out of our Words

Pema Chödrön: Getting Unstuck

Brené Brown

We always recommend Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian's "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure" , a great way to carry condoms with you for safer sexy time. Get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout.

We also name check Tristan Taormino's Rough Sex through Ginger's adoration of a scene with Sasha Grey.

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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SS 020: The Sexual Costumes and Masks We Wear

SS 020: The Sexual Costumes and Masks We Wear

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SS 019: Anal Sex & Double Penetration for the Non-Monogamous

SS 019: Anal Sex & Double Penetration for the Non-Monogamous

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SS 018: Blurring the Lines Between Polyamory and Swinging – Non Monogamy Cums Together

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SS 017: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas IV: The Final Chapter

SS 017: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas IV: The Final Chapter

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SS 016: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas III

SS 016: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas III

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SS 015: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas II

SS 015: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas II

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SS 014: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas I

SS 014: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas I

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