SS 346: Gang Bang the Mailbag 38 - Ideas about Size, Smooth Divorce, and BBWs

The Swingset crew is back with another Gang Bang the Mailbag! Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, Dirty Lola, and Mister Pent answer listener voicemails and emails! Voicemailbag Question #1 Summary How can my husband better navigate swinger culture after coming clean from an alcohol addiction? Voicemailbag Question #2 Summary How can I be more innovate and interesting with my spanking scenes? Mailbag Question #1: I've recently been kicked out of my mom's house and I'm now living at my dad's. Financially I think I'll be okay, but when I opened up to dad about my work—how my drawings can occasionally be NSFW—he got really... defensive? He basically said he doesn't want it anywhere in the house. As an artist this is inconvenient, but as a human being it hurts. I wanted to just be honest with him, but he doesn't know that his backward never-talk-about-sex mindset is just harmful. I just wish I knew the words to explain why, if he wants to protect his kids (16 and 9), my siblings, he needs to be open and teach them about consent—not just to be afraid of sexuality, which they'll just need therapy for later in life. Thoughts? Mailbag Question #2: To be blunt, how do you swing, go to play parties, etc when your body is malfunctioning? Hemmerhoids, yeast infections, UTIs, the like. Do I just put up a "closed" sign when this, um, crap, happens? Help!   Join us for our annual trip and takeover of Desire in Cancun Mexico! On this trip, we curate theme nights, evening entertainment, music, activities, workshops, and more, and strive to bring together straight, bi, pansexual, and gay swingers, polyamorists, nudists, quads, triads, couples, exhibitionists, BDSMers, and those just curious and looking to explore.   Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.   You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.   The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify!   Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).   You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.   Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you're interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com.   Today's featured music features Dana and the Wolf with their single, Got Me Poly!       Intro Music: Aiobahn & Vin - About U Voicemail Music: Summer Was Fun - Pick Up The Phone Commercial 2 Music: Koven - Board Game Business Music: Matroda – Shut It Down Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted Mr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA) Chris Pent's Music: Tokyo Machine - Bubbles Outro Music: Modestep - Summer   Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!   Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.       Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola Mr. Pent

1 Jun 20181h 12min

The Swingset crew banked so many episodes that they hadn't recorded for almost two months. For their first night back, they decided to give each other… the business. In addition to talking about tall skinny dudes with big dicks and fisting, they end up discussing poop… a lot. They also talk about lactation, breeding fantasy, some serious ds and humiliation play, waterboarding with juices, impact play with a rubber truncheon, and Macho Man Randy Savage. Prepare yourselves, because Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Dirty Lola are here to give you the business. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe, including the Velvet Thruster Jackie! The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you're interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com. Intro Music: Dion Timmer – Shiawase Commercial Music: Stephen – Play Me Like A Violin Commercial Music: Stephen – Stay (feat. Lindsey Cook) Review Music: Haywyre – Sculpted Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk – Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix) Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun – Hold On (feat. Q'AILA) Chris Pent's Music: Infected Mushroom – Spitfire Outro Music: Taska Black – We Would Never Do (feat. Nevve) Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse! Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album. Cooper and Ophilia's Velvet Thruster Jackie review includes music by ローマンRoman titled: P A L M S, M I R A N D A, L O V E, S E C R E T S, T O N I G H T, W E S T C O A S T, Y O U, C O A S T I N G, and 1 9 8 4, off the P A L M S ( D E L U X E ) album. These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license. Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola Mike Joseph

25 Mai 20181h 39min

Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, and Ginger Bentham know that the mailbag won't gang bang itself, so they've sat down to answer listener submitted questions for the 35th time! Question 1: Great podcast, I enjoy listening to you guys. My boyfriend and I are in an open relationship and it is going very well. My question is about dental dams, he and I don't use condoms when together but we always do with other people. He tried giving me oral using a dental dam just as an experiment and honestly I felt absolutely nothing :( most people don't use them i assume for exactly that reason. At least with condom the man still feels sensation although it's decreased comparing it to dental dam where one feels absolutely nothing, I barely felt he was down there lol. I know giving and receiving oral without a barrier is not the safest specially if involved in this lifestyle but when dental dam sucks so much what other alternatives are there to encourage it's usage. Could it be the brand of dental dam I used? Are there better brands out there that might be a little better. Question 2: Just started listening to your podcast and my husband and I are interested in adventuring into this fun world. We visited a sex club not too far away and we had a fun evening together, but it seemed like we were more adventurous than most of the other couples there that night. For the cost of being there, I wondered if we would be able to connect with other couples interested in setting up our own sexual adventure night at a very nice hotel. Am I being naive or is this a possibility? What are your thoughts with your experiences on this? We are open to engaging with others in our sexual play and with other couples. Kelli Question 3: I am on the spectrum of Aspergers. Since I can't easily read people and don't know what they want, I take the approach of "if that was good for you, I'll do it again next time", how do I broach this with other swing partners in a positive way, and avoid repetitive sex?' Question 4: This is the most privileged problem one can have, but I have noticed since entering my current open relationship (and trying to enter the local poly community) that there doesn't seem to be much of a place for straight women. I strongly identify as straight. I don't come from a repressive community (in fact many people in my family know I'm ethically non-monogamous and are very supportive) and I'm not aware of any bias I have against bi women - in fact recently I've reaaaaalllly wished I wanted anything to do with women. It seems a shame to not have the potential to experience half the population. I haven't experimented with women. And I honestly just do not want to. I have knee jerk negative reactions about the thought of having sex with other women. I feel annoyed by it when couples invite me to play, and I actually have low level violent urges sometimes (not fun ones - like 'I'm going to deck this chick if she keeps touching my waste' urges). I feel the same way about snuggling and kissing - this isn't mere vag-phobia. I keep hearing this message that no one is all straight and you need to exiperiment to know. But I don't think experimenting is physically or emotionally safe for me. Should I just accept that, at least for now, I'm straight as an arrow and accept the limitations of that (I see the irony in this statement btw)? What do I say to people who meet my self identification with cynicism? I'm frustrated. Thank you for listening, Jaq Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Dylan Thomas is available for for podcast consultation and production work. If you're interested, visit www.dylanthethomas.com. Attend the Chicago Non-Monogamy Conference! It takes place Saturday, May 19th, 2018, at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology, this year's CNMC's headlining topic is: Taking the privilege out of polyamory: Addressing race, sex, ability, and class in the nonmonogamy community. Intro Music: Soupandreas & inverness - Hours Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted Robot Ginger's Music: Robotaki - Automaton Outro Music: Tristam - Questions Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse! Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album. Our Chicago Non-Monogamy Conference Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: N U L I F E, off the P A L M S I V album. These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license. Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Ginger Bentham

18 Mai 20181h 30min

The Life on the Swingset crew traveled to Playground 2018: Come Together, and decided to sit together and record one of our traditional "Swingset Bedcast" episodes. Cooper S. Beckett, Ginger Bentham, Dylan Thomas, Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Chris Pent sat on two beds, close enough to sweat on, spit on, and spill on each other, and hacked out the last year amongst a crowd of up between ten and twenty Swingset fans!   You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!   Attend the Chicago Non-Monogamy Conference! It takes place Saturday, May 19th, 2018, at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology, this year's CNMC's headlining topic is: Taking the privilege out of polyamory: Addressing race, sex, ability, and class in the nonmonogamy community.     Intro and Outro Music: Stephen Walking - Glide Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix) Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA) Chris Pent's Music: Infected Mushroom - Spitfire Ginger Bentham's Music: Robotaki - Automaton   Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!   Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album. Our Chicago Non-Monogamy Conference Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: N U L I F E, off the P A L M S I V album. These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.     Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Ginger Bentham Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph Dirty Lola Mr. Pent

9 Mai 20182h 7min

Touch is powerful. Touch signals and communicates, touch comforts and supports, Touch can be thoughtful...touch can hurt. We feel it when we have it, we feel its absence when we don't, and sometimes we do things that result in us not getting enough of it. Tonight, Dylan Thomas, Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, and Mike Joseph get together to talk about the power of touch, and the barriers we throw up to touch, and how touch deficits affects us all.   You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify! Android Users: Download and review our Android App! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!   Intro Music: Astronaut - Rain Business Music: Matroda – Shut It Down Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix) Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA) Outro Music: Astronaut - Feronia (feat. Danyka Nadeau)   Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!   Our episode introduction featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 9 Guitar Playthrough titled: Opening 2. Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album. These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.   Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph Dirty Lola

26 Apr 20181h 15min

A fair critique of most sex positive gatherings, especially sexuality conferences, is that they are predominantly white. Over the years, significant progress has been made, and PolyDallas Millennium this July 13-15 is on the forefront of programming diversity and encouraging wider ranges of voices. Tonight Ruby Bouie Johnson joins Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, and Mike Joseph to discuss increasing diversity in sexual discussion, sex therapy, and sex positive spaces.   You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify! Android Users: Download and review our Android App! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!     Intro and Outro Music: Muzzy - New Age (feat. Celldweller) Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix) Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)   Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!       Our Desire 2018 Advertisement includes music by ローマンRoman titled: Bikini, off the Paradise album. These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.       Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph Dirty Lola

17 Apr 20181h 15min

Every November for the last six year, the Life on the Swingset has led a motley crew of wayward hedonists to Desire Resort on the Riviera Maya in Cancun. Tonight the hosts of our 2017 takeover, Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, JV Altharas, Shara Bono, and Tristan Taormino, talk about that trip; what they learned, what they enjoyed, their sexiest of sexy times, and what they'd like to bring forward to the November 2018 trip.   You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify! Android Users: Download and review our Android App! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!   Intro Music: Noisestorm - Crab Rave Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted Review and Commercial Music: Koven - My Love Robot Ginger's Music: Robotaki - Automaton Outro Music: LVTHER - This Love (feat. Savoi)   Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!     Our episode introduction featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 4 Guitar Playthrough titled: Bright Man. Our Multiamory Chicago Tour Stop music featured music from the Mega Man 5 Guitar Playthrough titled: Password. These tracks are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.   The Font Get Your Font To Mars by Goatmeal is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution Non-commercial Share Alike Unported (CC BY-NC-SA 3.0) license.     Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Ginger Bentham

5 Apr 20182h 22min

Dylan Thomas, Dirty Lola, and Dr. Liz Powell sit down together to talk about the art of the compliment: how to compliment someone in a way that it will be accepted in the spirit it's given, how to compliment someone without a goal, and how to treat compliments as small gifts that require no reciprocation. Tonight's episode is sponsored by Überlube! You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify! Android Users: Download and review our Android App! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist! Intro Music: LVTHER - Friends Again (feat. Claire Ridgely) Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA) Outro Music: The Night - Different Story Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse! Our episode introduction featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 4 Guitar Playthrough titled: Pharaoh Man. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license. Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola

23 Mar 20181h 6min