SS 346: Gang Bang the Mailbag 38 - Ideas about Size, Smooth Divorce, and BBWs

SS 346: Gang Bang the Mailbag 38 - Ideas about Size, Smooth Divorce, and BBWs

Tonight the Swingset opens the mailbag... but does so carefully, as it's -20F outside. Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Bex Caputo, and Lunabelle answer your listener questions!

Question 1:

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. We have amazing sex, but I can't seem to get satisfied sexually. We have sex/oral sex at least twice a day, but it seems like the more I orgasm, the more I crave it. He's slightly below average size, and I don't have any problems with his size because he knows what to do with it, but he's very self-conscious about his size. I'd love to bring up the topic of polyamory to him, but I'm afraid he'll feel like I want to do it just to be with someone bigger. In fact, I'm 100% positive that is what he would think. I've always felt that I might be bisexual. I'm fascinated with being with a woman, but I don't know how he'll react. Of course, it's every guys fantasy to have a threesome, but because of his self-consciousness, I don't think he'd be interested. I won't lie, being with someone bigger is also a curiosity of mine. He has a phobia (?) of someone bigger changing the way my vagina feels to him, so even if he were interested in swinging, I don't think he'd want me to be with another man.

I love him very much, but I feel like there are a lot of things I want to experience and I'm not getting any younger (I'm 36). I don't want to break up over it, because I'm very happy with him, but I'd also like to see what his thoughts are about it. How can I bring it up in a subtle, non-threatening way that might make him more interested?

Question 2:

My spouse and I are considering divorce. We love each other so much, but 15 years of marriage has left it's scars. We both have other partners, and breaking up with them, or closing our relationship at all is not on the table. These relationships are long standing, and breaking up would hurt multiple people and breed resentment. Besides, the openness of our relationship is not the issue. Do you have any advice for maintaining secondary relationships while the primary is in trouble? How to maintain boundaries when your whole life is up in the air?

Hope that's not too long! I love your podcast, and I especially love listening to it at work, where everyone thinks I'm a sweet normal and slightly boring office manager.

Question 3:

We are always taught to think of ourselves as being sexy but we won't look at ourselves and imagine ourselves as being sexy individuals. One of the problems that I've seen recently is you look at profiles or even advertise it for things even the desire takeover is we talked a get-together of sexy people or people say we are looking for other sexy couples.

The man that couples look it up and see that she is a BBW or I am a short chunky guy we no longer fit that is sexy category and both know hurts her feelings hurt our feelings.

Why is it that BBW it's almost turned into a niche versus just a description of an individual? It's almost like you're not an individual you're a BBW so you don't fit into this category and I've seen this very very bad in the swingers world.

So my question would be for you all is have you seen this how open are you to BBWs in your opinion of BBWs and how suggestion would you make to BBWs to get themselves more confident comfortable and energetic about the lifestyle itself?

Lunabelle mentioned her post, "I Like Big Toys and I Cannot Lie".

Ginger mentioned the Unfuckwithable video.

Dylan mentioned Elle Chase's book, Curvy Girl Sex .

Bradford and Angela are coming to Desire… are you? Join us from November 2nd through the 9th this 2019 for Life on the Swingset's eighth trip to Desire! Visit swingsetdesire.com for more information!

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SS 121: Gender Play & Sex with Dylan Ryan

SS 121: Gender Play & Sex with Dylan Ryan

We invite Dylan Ryan to join us for a conversation about Gender Play, fluidity, partner preferences, and gender dynamics. We look at strap-on play, sissification, power exchanges, efforts at education, and all in all... how much fun you can have fucking your partners while wearing a set of frilly panties.   Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out the soon to be renamed Hitachi Magic Wand! You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley! Dylan Ryan appears to have temporarily gone offline, we will post hard links as soon as they come back. Crashpadseries.com and QueerPorn.TV have large amounts of hot gender fluid porn, including titles starring Dylan Ryan! Tonight’s show is also brought to you by Adam & Eve! Swingset listeners get 50% off one item when you type “SWINGSET” for the offer code upon checkoutas well as 3 FREE DVD’s, a FREE extra gift and FREE shipping.

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SS 120: Soft Swap: Oral Sex II - Fellatio (Blowjobs & Deep Throating)

SS 120: Soft Swap: Oral Sex II - Fellatio (Blowjobs & Deep Throating)

Oral sex, it occupies a very prominent place in most people's sex lives, and for those of us who practice soft swapping, oral sex is often the main course. We focus specifically on fellatio today, and ... well Cooper's metaphors are terrible but it's ok... we'll keep him busy with a big fat dildo. We discuss technique, accessories (lubrication, condoms, toys, etc...), communication and negotiation, and ... get distracted. A lot. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out Trustex Flavored Condoms, also available in multiple flavors! You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley! Tonight’s show is also brought to you by Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear. Swingset listeners receive 15% off their order at Liberator.com with gift code SWINGSET.

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SS 119: Soft Swap: Oral Sex I - Cunnilingus (Labia Licking)

SS 119: Soft Swap: Oral Sex I - Cunnilingus (Labia Licking)

Oral sex, it occupies a very prominent place in most people's sex lives, and for those of us who practice soft swapping, oral sex is often the main course. We're focusing specifically on cunnilingus today, and while there are many cute metaphors for it, sometimes you just need to come out and say, "I want to eat your pussy".  So... dinner is served. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, "swingset" for a 10% discount! Check out Lixx Dental Dams, available in multiple flavors! You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley! Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear brought you part two of this episode! Visit Liberator.com and use gift code SWINGSET to save 15% off your order!

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SS 118: Playtime Troubleshooting: How To Be Successful Fucking When Details Get In The Way

SS 118: Playtime Troubleshooting: How To Be Successful Fucking When Details Get In The Way

Lets Fuck. Yeah... that doesn't usually work as a pickup line. But assuming it does, there's a whole host of other things that can happen that require a little more communication than that! We deal with pre-playtime communication, getting all the details out in the open (and out of the way) with elevator speeches and negotiating consent and figuring out that playing and STDs are -not- mutually exclusive. We move into actually having sex where things don't always go as planned. Where did the condom go? Where did the erection go? OHGOD A CRAMP! I'm not ok with this situation anymore. Things happen, and we discuss having those conversations without panicking and with a willingness to work through whatever comes up and get back... to the fucking. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, "swingset" for a 10% discount! Check out Afterglow Wipes for quick and effective toy and self cleaning! You can find Reid Mihalko at ReidAboutSex.com and at Relationship10x.com and on Twitter @reidaboutsex You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley!

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SS 117: Hypothetical Anal Fisting, Swinging Lust, Bisexual Girl Dating, and More!

SS 117: Hypothetical Anal Fisting, Swinging Lust, Bisexual Girl Dating, and More!

Shira B. Katz has rejoined the swingset crew! We celebrate by playing catch up! We talk about whether Cooper has been fisted, talk about where the head space is between swinging and polyamory, about girls dating girls, and really... we just slide organically from one topic to another until we've burrowed so far down into the rabbit hole it feels like ages since we looked down and said "hey... that's a big hole". Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, "swingset" for a 10% discount! Check out the Cheeky-Boy Vibrating Butt Plug and Perineum Massager by Rocks Off!

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SS 116: Gang-bang The Mailbag 8 - Swinging With Herpes & Wanting Different Things from Non-Monogamy

SS 116: Gang-bang The Mailbag 8 - Swinging With Herpes & Wanting Different Things from Non-Monogamy

We're back! All four of us! That's right! We figured out how to fit Shira B. Katz into a canvas sack so we could all gang bang that mailbag together! We answer questions about couples who have an imbalance in how they play or practice non-monogamy or experience jealousy, swinging with herpes, and take praise from someone who never fails to make sure there's a towel around... just in case. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, "swingset" for a 10% discount! Check out Hathor Organic Flavored Lube (Hazelnut Caramel Perhaps?)

7 Mai 20131h 3min

SS 115: How Not to be a Creep - Teaching Consent and Communication with Sex Nerd Sandra

SS 115: How Not to be a Creep - Teaching Consent and Communication with Sex Nerd Sandra

Sometimes it's hard to be awkward and unsure. It can come out as endearing, it can come out as silly, and depending on what's going on, it can come out creepy. Today on Life on the Swingset we explore creepy interactions and how they often originate with subtle but defined non-consensual behavior and that sometimes... it's just a lack of information or a lack of experience instead of someone actively playing "the creep". We... well thanks to Dylan, we start the conversation with single men being a little too eager to please and progress into communication in sexy interactions and in other parts of life. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, "swingset" for a 10% discount! Check out the Fuze Tango for vibrating g-spot focused double dildo action! Visit Sex Nerd Sandra's site and Follow @SexNerdSandra on Twitter! (She has a Podcast too!)

29 Apr 20131h 9min

SS 114: Nerding Out! How to be an Educator and Still Maintain Relationships with Sex Nerd Sandra

SS 114: Nerding Out! How to be an Educator and Still Maintain Relationships with Sex Nerd Sandra

Sex Nerd Sandra joins us for a discussion on what it means to be an educator, a resource, or some jackass that wants to relay their own experiences as gospel. After Technogeisha and Ginger join us (a bit late) we move into how relationships can get a little complicated for us z-list internet celebrities when people we meet know, and potentially assume more about us than we expect. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, "swingset" for a 10% discount! Check out the Je Joue Mimi for a rechargeable vibrator that has bigger power on the inside than you'd expect! Visit Sex Nerd Sandra's site and Follow @SexNerdSandra on Twitter! (She has a Podcast too!)

16 Apr 20131h 9min

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