Asa Ellerup: Inside the Mind of a Killer's Ex-Wife

She built her life around him. He allegedly built something else entirely. Rex Heuermann is charged with the murders of seven women along Long Island's Gilgo Beach corridor — killings that reportedly spanned from 1993 to 2010. He is expected to enter a guilty plea, according to multiple reports. If accepted, he faces life without parole.

But for the people who lived inside that house, the legal outcome is only the beginning. Asa Ellerup shared nearly three decades with Heuermann. She has said she would have known if something was wrong. Prosecutors allege he was methodical — allegedly timing the crimes for when his family was away, maintaining violent content and detailed checklists on his devices. Her own hair was reportedly found on victims. And yet she has maintained he isn't capable of what he's accused of. Their daughter Victoria has publicly said the opposite — that she believes her father most likely committed the killings.

That split is where this conversation lives. Psychotherapist Shavaun Scott joins me to unpack how a person's entire psychological identity can be anchored to someone who, according to prosecutors, was hiding a monstrous second life. How does the brain protect itself from a truth it cannot survive? How are partners allegedly selected for their vulnerability? What does it look like when the wall finally breaks? If you've been following this case and asking yourself how someone doesn't know — this is the episode that answers that question. The answer is more unsettling than most people are ready for.

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