1310: Sick Mom Needs Me — But So Does My Family | Feedback Friday

A baby's on the way, but your mom with cancer is camped in the spare room with no exit plan. What do you do when love and limits collide on Feedback Friday?

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On This Week's Feedback Friday:

• You and your wife scraped together enough to buy your first home, and now family members keep treating it like an open-door shelter. Your brother camped out for three months, and now your cancer-battling mom has moved in — again — while you're expecting your first baby. You love her, but she won't save money or plan ahead. How do you set a boundary without feeling like a monster?
• You've co-owned a massage-therapy business 50-50 with your mom for a decade, but since switching to an employee model, you're realizing she can't handle collaboration, conflict, or structure. She shuts down, disappears for weeks, and keeps turning to ChatGPT as her oracle for leadership advice — then parrots buzzwords without following through. How do you run a company with a partner who can't stay in the room?
• You wrote in (question three, episode 1294) to challenge Jordan and Gabe's take on Ellie — the daughter-in-law accused of taking advantage of her mother-in-law with marathon visits. You think the real culprit might be Ellie's absent husband Peter, and that the family's piling on the wife while giving Bro a pass. Did the guys miss a giant blind spot, or is there more to this story than meets the eye?
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• You've spent 20-plus years married to a woman whose horrific childhood trauma has manifested as violence, manipulation, and threats of suicide to control you. You cut off your own family to keep the peace, and you stayed for the kids — but they're nearly grown now. You're not looking to fix the marriage; you're looking to survive the landing. What practical steps should you be taking to prepare for the inevitable?
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