The Breakup Debrief Podcast10 Nov 2025

#20 Vogue Says Having a Boyfriend Is Embarrassing… Let’s Debrief That

In this episode, Kelly dives into the viral Vogue article titled “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?” and unpacks what this cultural shift really means for women navigating modern dating and healing.

Kelly explores why being in a relationship, something once seen as a badge of honour, now feels complicated or even “uncool” in certain spaces. From social media “soft launches” to the fear of losing your independence, she breaks down how culture, healing, and self-worth intersect when it comes to love.

This episode challenges listeners to question why they want a relationship, whether they’re choosing love from wholeness or from fear, and how to avoid performing relationships for social media validation.

Because at the end of the day- wanting love isn’t embarrassing. Losing yourself for it is.

📖 Read the original Vogue article: Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now? (Vogue)

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Takeaways

💬 The Vogue article explores how “being partnered” no longer defines women the way it once did.
💬 Some women now hide or “soft launch” their relationships due to cultural shifts in how we see commitment.
💬 There’s a fine line between empowerment and emotional avoidance when it comes to staying single.
💬 Being single isn’t automatically “healed” — and being partnered isn’t automatically “lost.”
💬 You can want love and still prioritise self-awareness, boundaries, and growth.

Keywords

Vogue, relationships, dating, single, breakup healing, attachment styles, modern love, self-worth, emotional growth, identity, feminism, independence, social media, self-discovery, dating culture

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