Ask Uncut: The Proposal That Ended a Friendship, Push Presents & Is It Okay to Shoot Your Shot With Your Doctor?

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions.

Keeshia arrived at work wearing a bodysuit with no underwear and we need to talk about it. Are you supposed to wear underwear under a bodysuit? And who on earth signed off on the press stud placement?

Vibes for the week:
Britt - @my_strange_addictionz
Keeshia - Sisuu Magnesium Recovery Spray Cedar Veil
Laura - @bratbustersparenting

Then we jump into your questions!

I GOT ENGAGED WEEK OF MY FRIENDS WEDDING AND SHES MAD
I lost one of my best friends after getting engaged the week of her wedding. I was her bridesmaid in NZ last November. My boyfriend and I went early for a holiday, and he surprised me with a proposal on the first day. He had asked permission from her and her partner beforehand and they said yes. After that, we travelled separately and rejoined two days before the wedding so we wouldn’t take attention away. The wedding week itself was great, but at my engagement dinner weeks later she made a few comments that absolutely threw me and spiralled into full blown tears with her telling me she wasn’t comfortable he proposed on her wedding week.
Her issues included feeling like they helped plan the proposal & picked the ring (alluding that my partner did nothing) that we “used” her content creator on her wedding day to get engagement shoot photos (we didn’t), that my fiancé made comments about the week being “ours,” and that we invited them to our engagement dinner ‘too soon’ after their wedding. For context, we had the engagement dinner quickly because my dad had just been diagnosed with terminal cancer and might not make it to the wedding… and I’m so happy we did as he sadly passed away a month later. We had a long emotional conversation and left things “okay,” but it’s felt off ever since. Not to mention she only sent a surface level I’m sorry for your loss text after my dad passed. Now I don’t even know if I want her at my wedding, let alone as a bridesmaid. I’m heartbroken that this has damaged our friendship during what should’ve been a happy time and especially that she wasn’t really there for me when my dad died. What would you do? I can’t stop thinking about it, but I don’t feel like it’s on me to fix things.

SHOULD I BUY MYSELF A SPENNY PUSH PRESENT?
Just wondering if you think it’s weird if I buy myself a ring for a push present? My husband thinks it’s a lot of money and believes it’s silly for me to want another ring. In his defence, he spent quite a significant amount of money on my engagement ring and wedding band. I’m due in 7 weeks and really want a ring, and have said to him when else will I ever get a ring/nice piece of jewellery again. For context, the ring is $3.5k. Should I (A) leave it and not get a ring, (B) keep pushing for him to buy me a ring, or (C) buy it myself? Or is it so weird/sad to buy myself a ring?

I HAVE A CRUSH ON MY DOCTOR. DO I SHOOT MY SHOT?
I’ve got a crush on my doctor. He’s NOT my GP. I go to see him every 3–4 months for Botox injections to treat my migraines. We're the same age (34) and he doesn't wear a ring, but I don’t know if he’s single. I can’t even say why I’ve got a crush on him. Physically, he’s not my type at all, but ever since I first saw him, I’ve felt drawn to him. I’m on the verge of messaging him on Instagram and asking if he’d like to go on a date with me. If he says yes, then of course I’ll switch doctors. But now for the big question: what should I even write? Please help a girl out!

DOES BRIDAL PARTY HELP PLAN WEDDING?
What are the realistic expectations of a bridal party in terms of involvement in wedding planning? I’m currently a bridesmaid for one of my close friends and I’m trying to understand what’s considered “normal” in terms of bridal party responsibilities I’m very happy for her and want to support her where I can but I’m starting to feel a bit overwhelmed with how much is being delegated to us. At the moment, the bridal party is being asked to help with things like sourcing quotes (transport, hires for the day) invites, organising logistics and contributing to DIY elements for the day On top of that, I’m also organising the bachelorette What’s making it feel heavier is that her partner doesn’t seem to be involved in the planning at all, so a lot of that responsibility is falling onto her and then onto us. I don’t mind helping but I also have limited time and capacity (and to be honest, I’ve had a pretty rough year personally) so I’m trying to figure out what’s reasonable vs. where it’s okay to set boundaries how involved were you expected to be? What’s typical and what’s too much?

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS

• 00:00 — Intro: the bodysuit, the press studs and the underwear debate
• 03:35 — Vibes of the week
• 13:44 — Q1: I got engaged on my best friend's wedding week and it destroyed our friendship
• 28:22 — Q2: Should I buy myself a push present my husband won't buy me?
• 36:01 — Q3: I have a crush on my Botox doctor — should I shoot my shot?
• 41:04 — Q4: Am I a bridesmaid or an unpaid wedding planner?

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