The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️14 Mai 2025

ADHD at Work, Life, and Love: A Deep Dive with Jesse J. Anderson, Author of 'Extra Focus'

If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I just do the things?”—this conversation is for you.

In this episode, I’m joined by Jesse J. Anderson—also known as @ADHDJesse—author of the bestselling book Extra Focus: The Quick Start Guide to Adult ADHD. Jesse shares what it was like to be diagnosed in adulthood, how undiagnosed ADHD impacted his career and relationships, and what changed when he started working with his brain instead of against it.

We talk about:

The real signs of adult ADHD that often get missed (especially in high-functioning adults)
Workplace strategies for ADHD professionals and how to advocate for what you need
The emotional impact of late diagnosis and how to move from shame to radical acceptance
The ADHD tax and why systems need to change—not just us
Why self-compassion and humor might be the most powerful ADHD tools of all

This isn’t just theory. Jesse brings lived experience, practical strategies, and deep validation for anyone trying to succeed in a world that wasn’t built for your brain.

📘 Get Jesse’s Book: Extra Focus: The Quick Start Guide to Adult ADHD The ADHD-friendly guide Jesse wishes he had when he was first diagnosed. Fast, funny, and incredibly helpful.

📬 Sign up for Jesse’s Weekly Newsletter: Packed with practical ADHD strategies, stories, and support: https://extrafocus.com

👋 Follow Jesse on Socials: Instagram, TikTok, X (Twitter), Threads: @ADHDJesse

👩‍💼 More Support for ADHD Women: If you're a professional or entrepreneurial woman navigating ADHD, download my free 5-Step Task Master Plan to stop the spiral of overwhelm and actually finish the things that matter: https://jenbarnes.org/taskmaster

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