The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️1 Okt 2025

Stuck in People Pleasing… Again

I thought I was done with people pleasing. I’d built boundaries, learned to say no, and told myself I was free from it. But when I moved back to Minnesota—and started building my second business—it snuck back in.

I found myself undercharging, over-delivering, and slipping back into perfectionism. The result? Burnout, loneliness, and even physical symptoms like poor sleep, digestive issues, and constant tension in my body.

In this episode of The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way, I share:

How people pleasing shows up in subtle ways for ADHD women
Why perfectionism is often tied to proving our worth
The physical and emotional cost of staying stuck in these patterns
How I’m working my way out of it—and how you can too

If you’ve ever felt like you should be “over” people pleasing, only to find yourself back in the same patterns, this episode will help you recognize you’re not alone—and there’s a way forward.

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—CHAPTERS—

00:00 Introduction: The Return of People Pleasing

01:16 Welcome to the Podcast

01:53 Personal Struggles and Realizations

03:54 Entrepreneurial Challenges and People Pleasing

07:20 The Impact of Moving Back to Minnesota

10:23 Burnout and Physical Symptoms

15:09 Recognizing and Addressing People Pleasing

23:50 Setting Boundaries and Overcoming Perfectionism

39:59 Conclusion and Journal Book Experience

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