Gay Men Going Deeper10 Jul 2025

How to Soften the Inner Critic

In this episode, Matt speaks with author and love advocate, Scott Stabile. Together, they break down the psycho-spiritual aspects of the inner critic and how to best work with it from a place of love. If you are someone who is hard on yourself and has a tough time finding self-love and self-compassion, this episode will help you develop greater awareness of your inner critic, where self-judgment originates, and how you can start practicing more acceptance of yourself and others through presence, love, and compassion.

The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:

How do you define love and self-love/compassion?
Do you believe it's possible to transcend self-judgment?
What does self-compassion look like?
How does prioritizing self-love/compassion serve the world outside of yourself?
Are there specific tools or techniques you can recommend to foster deeper self-compassion and self-love?
How do you feel, if at all, that lack of self-compassion is contributing to the insanity and division we're seeing in our world?

Today's Guest: Scott Stabile

Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel

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