Standards vs. Boundaries in Dating

In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the biggest dating myths gay men love to repeat: “My standards are too high.” But sometimes the problem isn’t what you want, it’s what you allow.

We get into the real difference between standards and boundaries, why attraction wipes our memory clean, and how low boundaries quietly reveal your level of self-worth. If you’ve ever said you want emotional maturity but keep entertaining sexy chaos, this episode is going to sting a little (in a good way).

Some of the topics we cover in this episode are:

A clear explanation of standards vs boundaries (with examples)
Why our standards collapse the second a hot man gives you attention
How boundaries are actually a self-worth and self-respect practice
The “crumb diet” too many gay men settle for

Join us for this honest, relatable, and painfully accurate episode that might be the reset your dating life has been waiting for.

Today's Hosts:

Michael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men
Matt Landsiedel

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Chapters

(00:00:00) - Gay Men's Dating: Standards and Boundaries
(00:02:54) - What's The Difference Between Standards and Boundaries
(00:04:52) - Gay Women Talk About Boundaries
(00:09:14) - How To Give Care To Your Partner
(00:12:34) - Why High Standards Don't Matter If Your Boundaries Are Low
(00:16:22) - When do you find your boundaries collapsing fastest?
(00:18:58) - What Makes You Feel Valid? Validation and Control
(00:23:13) - What Poor Boundaries Look Like
(00:27:08) - Standards vs Boundaries
(00:27:23) - Gay Men's Brotherhood: Donor-funded Podcast

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