BeThatHealingGirl Podcast21 Okt 2025

How Being ‘Chill’ Can Push a Safe Partner Away (When You Have Relationship Anxiety)

Welcome back BBs! In this episode, we’re diving deep into a pattern I see all the time: acting “chill” when inside, you're spiraling. You know the drill...trying so hard to come off as the "cool-low-maintenance-unbothered-girlie" so you don’t scare a good partner away… but then end up feeling lonely, disconnected, or like they’re slipping further away anyway...

Yeah, we’re unpacking THAT.

We’re talking:

✨ Why “being chill” is often just masked FEAR

✨ How inauthenticity actually erodes intimacy

✨ What safe partners are really craving (hint: it’s not perfection) and

✨ How to stop false-signaling and start authentically expressing what’s real for YOU!

Whether you're anxiously attached, healing from abandonment, or a high-achieving, high-performing baddie who secretly (or not-so-secretly) melts down when someone doesn’t text back right away… this one’s for you.

🫶 PLUS: I’m answering a juicy Healing Girl Gang Hotline question from someone navigating a relationship blowup and trying to repair trust after spiraling. 🎧

This episode is for you if you’ve ever:

Said “I’m fine” through gritted teeth Pretended to be cool with ambiguity but were low-key obsessing

Felt like your partner didn’t get how much effort you were putting into not freaking out

Or thought, “Ugh, maybe I’m just not meant to be in a relationship” (spoiler: you are)

P.S. Inside the Healing Girl Gang community, we’re not about faking it till we make it... we’re about becoming actually unbothered from the inside out. If you're ready for deeper connection, more ease, and to stop abandoning yourself to keep someone else, you’ll love this episode!!

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