I Thought I’d Met The One… Then He Threatened To Kill Me | Love Bombing, Coercive Control & Domestic Abuse

What starts as a fairy-tale romance quickly unravels into something far darker.

When Shauna met the man she believed was her Prince Charming, she had no idea she was stepping into a world of deception, manipulation and coercive control. Behind the charm was a web of lies that would leave her questioning her reality, her safety and ultimately her survival.

In this powerful and deeply moving episode of Becoming Lucy, hosts Lucy and Hana sit down with Shauna as she shares her story for the first time in full.

From love bombing and hidden secrets to coercive control, physical violence and a devastating legal battle, Shauna reveals how abuse can hide in plain sight and why leaving is often far more complicated than people realise.

Together, they explore the warning signs of abusive relationships, the impact of psychological manipulation, the realities of reporting domestic abuse, and how education became a lifeline in rebuilding her life.

⚠️ This episode contains discussions of domestic abuse, coercive control, violence, miscarriage and trauma that some listeners may find distressing.

If you’ve ever questioned whether something felt “off” in a relationship, this conversation could change how you see the signs.

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Topics Covered

• Domestic Abuse

• Coercive Control

• Love Bombing

• Emotional Manipulation

• Physical Violence

• Red Flags in Relationships

• Claire’s Law

• Reporting Abuse

• Survivor Advocacy

• Healing After Trauma

• Women’s Aid & Support Services

• Rebuilding Life After Abuse

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💜 Support & Resources

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, support is available.

📞 Women’s Aid

0808 2000 247

📞 National Domestic Abuse Helpline (Refuge)

0808 2000 247

📞 Refuge

0808 2000 247

📞 Men’s Advice Line

0808 801 0327

You are not alone, and support is available.

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🔗 Connect & Follow

🎵 Shauna on TikTok

TikTok

https://www.tiktok.com/@diaryofanabusesurvivor

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Instagram:

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Chapters

00:00 I Thought I’d Met Prince Charming

04:34 The Warning Signs I Missed

07:40 Love Bombing, Lies & Manipulation

10:26 The Family Everyone Believed

13:29 The Wedding That Changed Everything

16:21 The Secret Debt Bombshell

26:30 Living Under Pressure

31:19 No Longer Feeling Safe

36:18 More Lies Come To Light

41:11 Loss, Grief & Isolation

46:12 What Coercive Control Really Looks Like

49:15 Why Victims Don’t “Just Leave”

52:03 The Abuse Escalates

56:04 The Facebook Live Incident

01:01:11 The Night Everything Changed

01:06:57 Reporting The Abuse

01:16:23 Looking For Answers

01:18:11 The Trial & Emotional Fallout

01:19:55 The Verdict

01:22:51 Rebuilding A Life After Abuse

01:29:50 What Shauna Wants Survivors To Know

01:34:29 Thank You For Listening 💜

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