The Pleasure Talk You Never Got

Most of us got some version of the sex talk growing up. You know the one: STIs, birth control, and a healthy dose of fear. But nobody ever gave us the pleasure talk.

This week, Shannon sits down with sexual health educator Molly Kilby to talk about the things most of us were never taught: why pleasure isn't one-size-fits-all, how to communicate what you want, why your brain might be pumping the brakes even when you want intimacy, and how survivors can reconnect with pleasure after trauma.

The pleasure talk you never got starts now. Cheers!

The resources mentioned:

Sensate focus: ⁠https://health.cornell.edu/sites/health/files/pdf-library/sensate-focus.pdf⁠

Website version of Pleasure Profile, under "Sexual Communication" section: https://shcs.ucdavis.edu/guide-consent-and-sexcessful-communication

Come As You Are worksheets (Dual Control Model questionnaires and helpful handouts): https://www.emilynagoski.com/come-as-you-are-worksheets-2

Contact Molly: Mollyhutch817@gmail.com

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