Ask Uncut - The 30-Year-Old Dating Rut, Best Friend Betrayal & My Underwhelming Engagement Reaction

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Full transparency: we arrived at the studio at 8am and it took us approximately three hours to record 45 minutes of podcast because sometimes you just have to sit with your friends and feel each other out first. Efficiency is not always the word of the year in practice. We also need to talk about the fact that Roald Dahl — the man who wrote the BFG — was a World War II spy and fighter pilot before he decided to write children's books. And James Blunt was in the military before "You're Beautiful." You can change your career at any point.

Vibes for the week:
Laura - @la_sidhu
Keeshia - Worldle
Britt - Gone on Stan

LOST AT 30
Advice needed for a lost 30 year old. Honestly I’m really struggling being single. I’ve been told my hormone levels are low and the best option is to get my eggs frozen as I’m a single 30 year old. I’m not closed off to doing it but I just feel like a failure and putting it off. I’ve tried dating and any time I think I’ve found someone it’s always the same story ‘you’re amazing but I’ve found someone else, but I still want to be friends’ I’m exhausted with dating but I don’t want to give up because I want the partner and the family all of that. But I just genuinely feel like it’s never going to happen and to just give up on that life I’ve always wanted. How do I get out of this rut, dating is exhausting and the fear of getting my eggs frozen is just all consuming. And honestly I’m shutting down because of it. I just want some advice and preferably not the typical ‘you’ll find love when you least expect It

ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS IS ‘DATING’ MY EX
One of my best friends is now “dating” my ex. My ex, my best friend and I have all been friends for around 9 years. 1 year ago my ex and I broke up from a 5 year relationship. It was a fairly mutual breakup but it did come from me. Straight away after the break up my friend and my ex started getting really close and spending a lot of time together. I started to question if something was going on between them, which was always a sensitive spot for me during the relationship (as they were pretty close then but not this close). I felt replaced in my ex’s life by my best friend but I tried to move past it and even spoke to both of them about this which they told me nothing was going on. Fast forward to now where I have just found out they have been sleeping together and are in a situationship for the last ~7 months.

I am here to ask you how you would feel in this situation as I am totally over my ex and don’t care if he moves on but not sure how I feel about my best friend and what this means for our friendship. I feel she has totally disrespected our friendship. I think the expected response would be to stop being friends and it’s what I told myself I would do if this happened but now I am here I don’t feel that affected by it. Should I hold a greater standard for our friendship and move on knowing there are better people out there who have my back or should I just move on and continue with our friendship however that may look now? For context she is very distressed about what this means for our friendship.

DO I REACH OUT TO GUY FROM YEARS AGO?
3 years ago I was casually dating two guys at the same time. After about 2-3 months of dating each guy, things started to get serious. I knew it was unfair to continue with both but I found it really hard to choose. Both had great qualities but I ended up choosing Guy A because I felt a deeper connection at the time and he was a friend of a friend (vetted). Fast forward Guy A and I broke up 2.5 years later. It wasn't meant to be. But now I can't help but think, should I try and see if something could work with Guy B? I dont have him on social media so I can't check if he's dating anyone. For context, Guy B messaged me multiple times throughout my 2.5year relationship. Initially he said he'd wait for me if I changed my mind. I never responded out of respect for my relationship. He would message me about mutual interests and even that he saw Guy A and I at a sporting match. Should I initiate conversation? If so, how would I go about it?

MY FRIEND GOT ENGAGED AND I FELT NOTHING AND NOW I FEEL TERRIBLE
My best friend got engaged last weekend and I said all the right things. I screamed, I cried, I asked to see the ring and asked for the proposal story etc. But privately in that first moment when she told me, I felt nothing. Not happy, not sad, just nothing. And now I feel like a really bad friend. Do I secretly not think he's right for her? Am I jealous? Am I just a bad friend? She is absolutely glowing and I feel guilty for not actually being excited for her. What is wrong with me?

TIMESTAMPS

• 0:00 — Three hours of chatting, zero productivity
• 4:00 — Vibes
• 12:04 — Q1: I'm 30, single, and been told to freeze my eggs. I feel like a failure.
• 24:45 — Q2: My best friend has been secretly dating my ex for seven months and lied to my face
• 36:26 — Q3: I broke up with a good guy for someone else. It didn't work out. Can I go back?
• 42:45 — Q4: My best friend got engaged and I felt absolutely nothing. Am I a bad person?

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