151 The Skill No One Knew You Needed

The skill no one knew you needed: how to emotionally regulate while doing a task. It's simple yet difficult. And undiagnosed neurodivergent parents were even less likely to be able to help on some fronts, if they never learned how either.

This is a skill you can practice (which the end of the episode covers), and there are many AuDHD factors complicating it for us. Even with different emotional processing or experience, it's still possible to take care of yourself during an activity.

But it requires slowing down and being willing to stop if your brain or body are too triggered.

Over time, this builds to being able to do more, more easily, with less stress. It is very, very worth it

p.s. the "facilitator" example was MY experience in groups, not how I want people to think about me leading groups ;)

Mentioned in episode:

2 short vids explaining the Wall of Awful & strategies for going through & over it by Jessica McCabe of How to ADHD

150 The Wall of Awful with Brendan Mahan

AuDHD Flourishing resources:

Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)
Mattia's Newsletter
Like Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord)

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