How Can I Stop Comparing Myself

Tactical "stop it" approaches to self-comparison DO NOT WORK for perfectionists. Find out WHY along with the hidden costs of comparing yourself, why the approach you’ve taken to stopping self-comparison hasn't worked, what you actually need to do and scientifically what causes perfectionists to have an even harder time than non-perfectionistic people in rewiring this habit.

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Why self comparison tactics fail perfectionists
01:41-The hidden costs of comparing yourself
06:31-Recognize self comparison as a type of self punishment.
10:11-Why intellect isn't enough to rewire perfectionist tendencies
12:13-Developing skill sets over gathering knowledge
15:00-Why it's scientifically harder for perfectionists to stop unhealthy self-comparison
16:08-Acceptance vs. judgment in rewiring perfectionism
18:00-What Silver vs. bronze medalists show us about comparing yourself to others
21:30-Choosing growth over fear of failure

Resources Mentioned In Episode 246:

• Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session
• Comparing Yourself (pt.1) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 245
• Discovering Your Hidden Motivators Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 80
• Intrinsic Motivational Patterns Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 66

Citations/Sources:

Curran, T., & Hill, A. P. (2019). Perfectionism is increasing over time: A meta-analysis of birth cohort differences from 1989 to 2016. Psychological Bulletin, 145(4), 410–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000138

Sirois, F.M., Monforton, J. and Simpson, M. (2010) "If Only I Had Done Better": Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin , 36 (12). 1675 - 1692. ISSN 0146-1672 https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614

Stoeber, J., & Diedenhofen, B. (2017). Multidimensional perfectionism and counterfactual thinking: Some think upward, others downward. Personality and Individual Differences, 119, 118–121. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.07.009

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