95: I Had to Become Ruthless to Stay Gone: For the Person Who Keeps Leaving and Going Back

In this episode, Helen shares her story of the subtle ways coercive control made her believe that she was the problem.She shares how he repeatedly blamed her for leaving “right when he was about to ge...

22 Sep 1h 8min

How do you know when an abuser’s “change” is actually just another form of control?In this episode, I break down the clear signs that an abusive person is not truly changing, including real text messa...

15 Sep 47min

If you never read another book, listen to another podcast, or consume another piece of content about abuse, there is one thing I want you to understand:If you continue looking at your relationship thr...

2 Sep 32min

In this episode, I sit down with Wednesday to talk about how the nervous system can become attached to predictability—even when that predictability is harmful—and how an abuser can become both the poi...

25 Aug 1h 25min

Everyone asks what happened the day Aubree’s husband shot her twice, murdered their nearly six-month-old son, Kymani, and then took his own life.But the deeper question is: What happened long before t...

11 Aug 1h 30min

Everyone asks what happened the day Aubree’s husband shot her twice, murdered their nearly six-month-old son, Kymani, and then took his own life.But the deeper question is: What happened long before t...

4 Aug 1h 6min

I sit down with Lindsay Stoker creator of The Control Code to unpack the most misunderstood aspects of coercive control and psychological abuse.One of the most powerful shifts in understanding abuse i...

28 Jul 1h 10min