Why Choosing Yourself Isn’t Selfish | Catherine Cristani

When was the last time you truly chose yourself?

In episode 54 of The Influence Exchange, J.V. sits down with Catherine Cristani for an honest conversation about relationships, loneliness, self-worth, vulnerability, emotional connection, and what it really means to put yourself first.

Many of us spend years trying to meet other people's expectations, whether in relationships, careers, friendships, or family, without realizing how much of ourselves we may be losing along the way.

Catherine challenges us to look inward and ask some difficult questions:

What is it costing you to stay?

Who are you underneath it all?

What actually brings you joy?

Together, J.V. and Catherine explore why people sometimes enter or remain in relationships because they're afraid of being alone, and why learning to enjoy your own company can be an important part of understanding yourself.

Catherine also shares practical insights around communication and conflict, including the “power of the pause” - creating space before reacting so you can better understand what you're feeling and respond rather than simply trying to win an argument.

The conversation explores vulnerability, emotional triggers, accountability, human connection, and recognizing when a relationship or situation no longer aligns with who you're becoming.

And at the heart of the conversation is a simple message:

It's okay to choose yourself and choosing yourself isn't selfish.

Choosing yourself doesn't mean you stop caring about everyone else. Sometimes it means finally giving yourself the same respect, attention, and consideration you've been giving to everyone around you.

If you've ever struggled with loneliness, lost yourself in a relationship, questioned whether putting yourself first was selfish, or wondered what you truly want from your life, this conversation is for you.

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Catherine Website: https://willowhealing.org/

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