Ground Floor: on vaginismus, vulvodynia, and other ways we brace2 Okt

The Vaginismus-Friendly Partner: What TikTok Isn't Telling You

"I found a vaginismus-friendly partner" is all over TikTok. But what does that actually mean? And why isn't a "vaginismus-friendly" partner just… a woman-friendly one?

In this episode of Ground Floor, Naomi Gale takes apart the vaginismus partner fantasy. She explains why the right person won't magically fix painful sex, and why vaginismus can show up for the first time once you're finally with someone safe. Then she gives you the real list: the PVP (Perfect Vaginismus Partner) checklist, a word-for-word script for telling someone new you have vaginismus, and seven steps any partner can take to help you feel held, not tolerated.

In this episode:

What vaginismus is through a holistic lens, and why it's armour, not rejection
Why 1 in 13 UK women find sex painful, and why that number is too low
How vaginismus can start with birth, stitches, speculums, or childhood UTIs
The 7-point PVP checklist for dating with vaginismus
A script for telling a new partner, and what their face tells you
Guilt, counting, and pressure when you already have a partner
7 steps for partners, from taking penetration off the table to "no need to rummage for the last Pringle"
Why Botox and dilators sit outside the work that actually needs doing

If you have vaginismus, this one's for you. If you love someone who has it, this one's especially for you. Send it to them.

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