Get Curious, Not Furious: A Coaching Approach to Neurodivergence for Grandparents with Jean Ramsay

Discover my website, Books, YouTube channel, and more: ⁠https://helpanxiety.org/podcast If you’re a grandparent or family member supporting a neurodivergent young person, it can be hard to know what’s behind their behaviour, or how best to help. Today, we sit down with Jean Ramsay of Coaching for Schools, to talk about what she learned from a career in teaching. We cover how to look beyond behaviour and “get curious instead of furious,” and why focusing on strengths and taking the role of coach makes such a difference. Jean explains how to offer support through structure, visual reminders and providing time to process, while creating space for connection, confidence and fun. EPISODE REVEALS Neurodivergent young people aren’t choosing to struggle. Often, their behaviour is communicating that something else is going on. Get curious before reacting to their behaviour Start with acceptance. Focus on strengths, listen without judgement, and work with your grandchild, child or student to remove barriers. Routines, visual reminders and time to process all help. The goal isn’t to make young people fit rigid expectations. It´s to provide them with the support they need to thrive as themselves. BEST MOMENTS "I think the fact that I found studying so difficult made me a really good teacher because I got the kids in the class who were struggling." "Don’t get furious, get curious. So, what’s underneath that behaviour?" “If your grandchild is acting out what is underneath that, it could be that somebody started bullying them at school.” "Please just accept your neurodivergent young person. They’re not choosing it." How to work with Jean Ramsey ADHD & Education Coach Book a free 30 min discovery call: https://coachingforschools.com/free-30-minute-consultation/ Jean offers a 13 week group coaching program for newly assessed ND families who are feeling overwhelmed, which is also available as a self-study course, or 1:2:1 coaching. Including training for grandparents and ADHD and EBSA training for schools Everything is available at www.coachingforschools.com Beginners’ Guide to ADHD - https://coachingforschools.com/understanding-adhd/ Parents’ Guide to EBSA - https://coachingforschools.com/parents-guide-to-ebsa/ You tube: https://www.youtube.com/@jeanramsey1250 https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeanramseycoach/ RESOURCES Famisafe Parental control App Link: https://wondersharesoftware.pxf.io/ParentingAUDHDWhat to Do When Your Child Shuts Down: Real-World Parenting Strategies for Neurodivergent Kids Who Shut Down, Refuse School, or Just Stop communicating with you: https://amzn.eu/d/0fBIfbhR CLIFF´S SERVICES Are you struggling with anxiety and want support from someone who has been there and come out the other side? - Message Cliff here and take advantage of his founding members offer: https://m.me/cliff.kilmister CONTACT ME Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cliff_kilmister08 X (Twitter): https://x.com/KilmisterCliff HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/