How to Meet Your Needs for Connection: Attunement

How to Meet Your Needs for Connection: Attunement

During this time of increased isolation our needs for connection are harder to meet than ever. Today Rick and Forrest are exploring how we can use the psychological technique of "attunement" to connect better with others, and meet our own need for connection. Life After COVID Summit: Join Dr. Rick Hanson, Forrest Hanson, and a roster of world-class experts during this FREE three-day online event to explore our life after COVID. Click here to learn more about the Summit and register now. Key Topics: 2:15: Moments that satisfy our need for connection. 5:45: The “Still Face Experiment” 8:55: Attention, availability, responsiveness. 10:35: Which relationships fill you up? 13:50: What is attunement? 18:40: The “emotional risk” of attunement. 24:30: Paying attention. 31:20: Being open to being changed. 33:10: Do I matter to you? 37:30: Availability and co-regulation. 41:15: “Our interactions are systems.” 42:30: Rick pushes back a bit on co-regulation. 44:50: The impact of our nature on how we view interactions. 47:45: Becoming responsive. 52:40: Communicating wants and needs. 57:40: Respecting your own needs. 59:15: The impact of social power and privilege on our interactions. 1:04:30: Recap Forrest has a new YouTube channel! Subscribe to the channel, and watch his newest video over there. Sponsors: From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the legendary Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription. Connect with the show: Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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