566: Jim Dethmer - Conscious Leadership, Radical Responsibility, Energy Audits, Being Fully Present, and Doing What Most Makes You Feel Alive

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• What do leaders who sustain excellence do? They have the ability to be present for an extended period of time. They are here now. They live a life that creates a sustainable presence.
  • They are fully present. Be here now. Fully here. This makes you available for this creative moment.
  • Play the long game. Excellent leaders play the long game. "Live a life that creates sustainable presence."
• Space and Place: It's important to know your soul's home:
  • For Jim: Northern Michigan. Quiet, still, simple, in nature... "It's recharging for me."
• Lead and live intentionally to get to your flow state.
• Ask: What is it that creates the most "alive-ness" in you?
  • Do an energy audit. Look at your calendar for the last week. What events make your energy go up, stay neutral, or go down?
  • Maximize for people and events that make your energy go up. "Populate your life with what you love."
• Are you willing to be fully alive? What are you willing to risk to make that happen?
  • Get rid of energy downers. You can do that in 3 ways.
    • Dump it,
    • Delegate it
    • Do it differently
• Responsibility – By me: I commit to taking full responsibility for the circumstances of my life, and my physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. I commit to support others to take full responsibility for their lives.
  • I have to = Victim mindset
  • I choose to = Ownership mindset
• To me = At the effect of other things. Outside my locus of control.
• By me = Inside. I am the cause of the experience. Radical responsibility. How am I causing the experience?
• Josh Waitzkin - Make weather what it is. Play in the rain.
• Curiosity is everything as a leader.
• The opposite of curiosity is always needing/wanting to be right.
  • Deconstruct all the places where you want to be right.
  • Most of it stems from fear. There are three fears:
    • Approval
    • Control
    • Security
• Curiosity - I commit to growing in self-awareness. I commit to regarding every interaction as an opportunity to learn. I commit to curiosity as a path to rapid learning.
• Candor - I commit to saying what is true for me. I commit to being a person to whom others can express themselves with candor.
• Accountability and Responsibility: Responsibility is not something that can be assigned, it is something that has to be taken. Responsibility lives in the world of integrity and impeccable agreements. Speak truth in love.
• "We often describe unconscious leaders as reactive. They react from a "story" about the past or an imagined future, and their personality, ego, or mind takes over."