Daddy Issues with Violet Benson24 Aug 2023

From Toxic to Soulmates w/ Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan

Have you considered the difference between what people want versus what they truly need in relationships, and how does this understanding impact your approach to forming connections? This introspective exploration can have a profound influence on how you approach building meaningful bonds.

Today's guest is Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan. Figs is the creator of the Empathi method and the certification process for Empathi coaches. His life’s mission is to help couples feel more connected.

Violetta and Figs unveil the impact of childhood experiences on your ability to love and how self-sabotaging patterns might be holding you back and decode your attachment style and learn how taking responsibility for your actions and emotions can transform your connections. Whether you're seeking self-growth or hoping to form healthier bonds, don't miss out on this empowering conversation that peels back the layers of love, relationships, and healing.

What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
02:14 Are you in a toxic relationship?
04:15 What can we do about a toxic partner?
06:23 When you’re in a threatened vulnerable state
08:02 Are you in a system together?
13:36 When in your reality your partner is hurting you
16:14 How childhood experiences affect our ability to love
17:56 Self-sabotaging patterns
19:49 The natural fear to fall in love
23:31 Struggling to open up
25:25 Know what’s your attachment style
29:18 Taking responsibility of our actions and emotions
33:21 Both need to show up for each other
36:28 Foster empathy for yourself and others
42:31 The gray area on first dates
47:36 Here’s what you should focus on when dating
50:07 Finding healing through forming relationships
55:31 What is a co-dependent relationship?
01:00:48 Doing self work to not attract what you lack
01:04:19 Glorification of people protecting themselves from getting hurt
01:07:29 What people really need is not what they want

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