Episode 273 - Fit for Love

Ever wonder if your penis/vulva/genitalia are normal? In this episode, I’m joined by urologist Dr. Maria Uloko who’s revolutionizing sexual healthcare. We get into why vulva-owners need testosterone, what happens when penis-owners masturbate too aggressively, how shame can interfere with getting the care you need, and how common it is to experience sexual dysfunction. I also answer your questions including when it’s time to date again after a toxic relationship, what to do when your partner’s porn preferences look nothing like you, how to be dominant in the bedroom and toy recs to amplify oral sex on a vulva. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to address common causes of pain during sex Treatments for sexual health challenges Why there’s no “normal” when it comes to sexual health Show Notes: More Dr. Maria Uloko: Instagram | Twitter | MUMD Sexual Health Beverly Hills VULVAi.co: Instagram | Website  Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE  Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

13 Des 202436min

On today’s show, it’s all about finding answers to your trickiest questions and unleashing your full pleasure potential. How do you orgasm when you don’t know how? Or have sex for the first time, when you’re a virgin? How do you ease into an open relationship or threesome? How do you find balance in your masturbation routine? Whether you’re too dry (and it’s puzzling your partner), or too wet (and it’s puzzling both of you) I help you figure out solutions to overcome your biggest sexual challenges. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to break through orgasm barriers with self-pleasure tips. The essentials for navigating open relationships and threesomes. Why embracing the messiness of sex leads to better intimacy. Show Notes: Try VIIA Today! Head to https://bit.ly/viiaemily and use code "EMILY"! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

10 Des 202439min

When it comes to your sexual style, have you ever thought about your voice? Do you moan? Slow things down? Pitch up or down an octave?  Actor, writer and director Lake Bell is obsessed with the human voice. On today’s show, we’ll discuss her audiobook Inside Voice, which explores this obsession, including the “sexy baby voice” phenomenon - which happens to be her least favorite choice for bedroom talk. We also discuss your takes on dating in your 40s, and why things often get better with age when it comes to the pursuit of romance. All this and more with my amazing guest, Lake Bell. In this episode, you’ll learn: How your voice can enhance intimacy and authenticity in and out of the bedroom. Why playful and respectful communication is the key to better sex. The joys of dating in your 40s, from confidence to self-awareness. Show Notes: More Lake Bell: Instagram | X Lake Bell's Audiobook, Inside Voice: My Obsession with How We Sound: Audible | Pushkin Try the Enigma Wave Today! Visit lelo.com and use code “SEXWITHEMILY” at checkout for an additional 25% OFF any existing sales. Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

6 Des 202441min

It’s the question everyone has asked themselves at least once. Should I break up with my partner? Relationship success depends on so many factors - communication, emotional intimacy, and of course - sexual connection. Figuring out which problems are worth solving and which ones are directing you to the exit sign can be confusing, exhausting and painful. So on today’s show, I take your questions - live - to figure out if you should make up or break up. Is bad sex worth leaving someone over? What about an age gap that puts both of you in much different life stages? Or how do you know if an affair has the potential to turn into something real? We learn so much from other people’s relationships. No matter where you are in your own, this will teach us all how to make better choices going forward. In this episode, you’ll learn:  How to navigate the crossroads of making up or breaking up—and what signs to look for in your relationship. Why communication, boundaries, and therapy are game-changers when deciding whether to stay or go. The truth about age gaps, open relationships, and the role of emotional honesty in finding real compatibility. Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Ready to grow your business? Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/swe Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

3 Des 202449min

I am joined by Violet Benson, host of the podcast Almost Adulting and creator of the wildly popular Instagram account @DaddyIssues_. Over the last couple of years, Violet has become well known for her irreverent relationship and dating advice.  In this interview, Violet reveals why she has stopped dating (for now), what exactly a “pick me girl” is and how attraction is not always dependent on good looks. And because this is a sex show after all, Violet shared some tips for avoiding potentially embarrassing moments in the bedroom. This is a good one! In this episode, you’ll learn: Why taking a break from dating can reset your emotional boundaries How to embrace authenticity in relationships Practical tips to avoid awkward bedroom moments Show Notes: Try VIIA Hemp! https://bit.ly/viiaemily and use code "EMILY"! More Violet Benson: @DaddyIssues_ | @VioletBenson | Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

29 Nov 202446min

‘Tis the season to give and receive! In this episode, I’m unwrapping the 2024 Sex With Emily Holiday Gift Guide to help you bring more pleasure to your loved ones—and yourself—this year. From wellness essentials to stocking stuffers and, of course, must-have sex toys, there’s something for everyone on your list (yes, even your grandparents!). I’ll share my top picks, tips for introducing a partner to toys, and why the gift of pleasure is truly the gift that keeps on giving. In this episode, you’ll learn: When and how to gift a sex toy. Tips for introducing toys into your relationship. Emily’s favorite pleasure-filled gifts for the holidays. Show Notes: Sex With Emily Holiday Gift Guide: 2024 Edition Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Episode Sponsored By: Try Popstar Volume + Taste Supplement! (Use code "EMILY" for 20% off (excl. 3-pack))  ILY Pebble Vibrator by Je Joue (Use Code "EMILY30" for 30% off your order) VIIA High Love Gummies + Vape Bundle (11/19-12/3: 25% Off Sitewide & Up to 50% Off Other Select Items & Bundles Sitewide (No Code)- After 12/3: Use code "EMILY" for 15% off) Morgasm CBD- Infused Lube & "O" Lube (11/19 - 12/2: Purchase any single tube or discounted bundle and receive a free lube with code "EMILYBF" Solaray Her Life Stages ( Use code "SEXWITHEMILY" for 15% off your order) Just Thrive Total Body Boost (11/23-12/3: Use code "SWE" for 25% off sitewide) Je Joue Hera Flex Rabbit Vibrator (Head to sexwithemily.com/hera and use code “EMILY30” at checkout for 30% off.) Try the LELO Enigma Double Sonic (Visit lelo.com and use code “EMILY20” at checkout for an additional 20% OFF any existing sales.) Bathmate Penis Pumps( 11/25-12/4: Up to 35% off all pumps (no code); After 12/4: Use code EMILY for 10% off your order) See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

26 Nov 202422min

What if being happy was a moral obligation, like voting and recycling? Would you take steps to be happier? Today, I’m joined by brain health expert, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Daniel Amen to talk about how our thinking patterns shape our lives in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss the ways stress affects your sexual performance, give tips to combat your automatic negative thoughts (ANTS), and discuss his book Your Brain is Always Listening.  We answer a question from a habitual cheater on how to break the cycle and discuss how Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) can get in the way of your orgasm. Come along on a fascinating deep dive into how shifting your mindset can transform your brain, your relationships, and your pleasure. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to silence negative thoughts with easy daily habits to rewire your brain Why a healthy brain means better sex, from focus to pleasure How to break toxic cycles and build stronger, happier relationships Show Notes: More Dr. Daniel Amen: Website | Instagram | Amen University | Your Brain is Always Listening Take The Dragon Quiz Today! Try the Enigma Double Sonic Today! Visit lelo.com and use code “EMILY20” at checkout for an additional 20% OFF any existing sales. Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

22 Nov 202441min

Here’s a secret. The #1 obstacle standing between you and the sex of your dreams probably comes down to exactly one thing: communication. It’s not a cliche - it’s a skill, and on today’s Ask Emily show, we’re talking our way to better sex. So let’s bravely face the awkwardness, with communication hacks for even the most nerve-wracking of convos. Clamming up during sex talks? I’ve got a confidence-building solution for that. How about giving tough feedback, like asking for better handjobs, or addressing a funky smell? We get into it! Finally, we tackle tough topics like telling a friend you have feelings for them, whether or not to open a relationship, and if you should stay in a partnership if the sex is just OK. Communication is lubrication, but you know what? It’s also liberating, and by the end of this episode, you’ll be feeling a lot more free. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to confidently speak up about your needs in the bedroom Why communication is the ultimate lubricant for better sex The secret to navigating relationship dilemmas—whether it’s mismatched libidos, feelings for a friend, or trying non-monogamy for the first time. Show Notes: Try The Je Joue Hera Flex Today! Head to sexwithemily.com/hera and use code "EMILY30" at checkout for 30% off.  Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

19 Nov 202449min