Episode 331 - Rough Sex... and Rougher Sex!

Attention: the orgasm has left the building. What does it mean when you can orgasm with one partner, but not another? Or when you can squirt, but not climax? How do we create those delicious sensations, without getting too up in our head about it? On today’s Hotline Calls show, we’re talking all about orgasm and how to unlock it. I answer your questions on how to orgasm for the first time (at any age), what to do when you’re unable to orgasm with a new partner, how overall health affects your ability to climax, and how to create masturbation routines that support the orgasms you deserve. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes: Je Joue Mimi Soft Episode: Best Of: Sexually Fit w/ Mind Pump b-Vibe: Premium anal play products for next-level butt-gasms. Episode: Seducing The Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair Dame Pom is great for exploration. Eva for a couples toy We-Vibe Nova II for internal and external pleasure Pjur Lube   For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

15 Sep 202152min

Are you suddenly feeling a little...kinkier? According to my guest, social psychologist, and Kinsey Institute researcher Justin Lehmiller, a lot of us are ready to sex-periment right now. Justin shares fascinating sex research from the COVID era, the sex communication practices heterosexual individuals can learn from the LGBTQ+ community, and how to make casual sex better for women. (Spoiler alert: emphasize her pleasure.) We also unpack the Kinsey Scale and why sexuality is so freaking fluid, why threesomes are such a popular fantasy, and what our porn preferences reveal (and don’t reveal) about us. Finally, we talk about sex education as it’s practiced in The Netherlands, and give you some incredibly useful tools for talking to your kids about sex (because it’s really important!). For more information about Dr. Justin Lehmiller, click below: Website Facebook Instagram Twitter For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

11 Sep 202157min

So you want sex on the daily, but as for your partner? Not really. Not to worry! Today’s hotline calls episode takes a look at mismatched sex drives, and what might actually be behind them. We’re also diving into penis size, pleasure, and communication. There are so many ways to enjoy a penis - but first, ya gotta talk about what you BOTH want. We’re also tackling a case of sexsomnia (aka having sex in your sleep), and how to make eye contact during sex (when you’re awake). If you’d like to ask me a question, you can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes:Episode: First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome Find an EMDR therapist: EMDRIA.org For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

8 Sep 202144min

On today’s throwback show, I’m joined by Sal, Adam, and Justin from the Mind Pump health and wellness show. We discuss how your mindset can get you into the best shape, common misconceptions about fitness training and testosterone, ways to naturally boost your libido, and the difference between self-image and body image. Plus, we explore how your physical health impacts your sex life, and the guys dive into the fascinating relationship between libido and physical activity. Trust me when I say the bedroom and the weight room are more connected than you think!  I also answer your questions about how to confidently have sex on top, what it means if you feel physically “off” after masturbating and why we should send some love to an often-overlooked erogenous zone.  For more Mind Pump, visit: mindpumpfree.com New Book The Resistance Training Revolution: The No-Cardio Way to Burn Fat and Age-Proof Your Body―in Only 60 Minutes a Week YouTube Instagram Facebook Twitter For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Promescent: Better In Bed Magic Wand: The World's Best Selling Massage Wand For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

4 Sep 202146min

Esther Perel is one of the most fascinating thinkers today on issues of desire, sex, and relationships. As an author and psychotherapist, she helps therapy patients (and the general public) understand the complexities of love and desire with provocative questions. How do you turn yourself on? How do you balance your need for safety and security, and on the other hand, your need for adventure and novelty? Can you want what you already have? As the author of the iconic “Mating In Captivity” and another bestseller, “The State of Affairs,” Esther is reshaping society’s views of sexuality and eroticism -- and arguably, healing them. In today’s episode, we talk about the difference between sexual and emotional needs, how you can calibrate your expectations of marriage, and why people in happy relationships still cheat. We also discuss her new game “Where Should We Begin,” answer a listener’s question about how to handle anxiety in relationships, and her number one piece of advice for having better sex. For more Esther Perel, visit estherperel.com Show Notes: The Pleasure Planner For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1 Sep 202154min

Do you remember the sex you had in college? Or maybe you’re just now embarking on this exciting adventure and have no idea what to expect? While college is an *amazing* time for independence and exploration, it also comes with uncharted territory and first-time sexual dilemmas. Today, I’m breaking down everything you need to know about sex in college. I’m sharing what I wish I knew before my first year and some of YOUR hottest college hookup stories. Plus I answer your questions about how to make one night stands more pleasurable, how to know if it’s time to break up with your long term partner for new sexual experiences, what to do if your asexual identity or virginity makes it harder for you to connect with potential partners and how to find partners who value more than just casual hookups. I also talk to certified health coach Katrina Wright about how she has transcended during her time at college into a healthier relationship with herself and her romantic partners. Show Notes: Magic Wand System Jo Lubricants Sex Tips I Wish I knew In My 20s Ask Emily: How Do I Get More Comfortable w/ Dirty Talk Je Joue Mimi Soft Dame - Eva For more information about Katrina Wright, visit: thesculptyou.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

28 Aug 202159min

Are you curious about anal play, but don’t know where to get started? It’s Anal August, so we’ve invited certified sex educator and B-Vibe CEO Alicia Sinclair on the show to break down all things booty. In today’s episode, we talk about how to experiment with beginner butt play, avoiding common anal mistakes, progressing your anal play (from analingus to penetration), and the best products for anal training and butt orgasms—yup, they’re real. Plus, we answer your questions about the best ways to prep and unwind after engaging in any sort of butt stuff, how to actually find your prostate, how to let go of shame and replace it with glorious anal pleasure. Show Notes: Woo More Play Article: Anal Massage: Master the Best Anal Foreplay Techniques OHNUT Pjur Lube Aneros Alicia's last appearance on Sex w/ Emily: Snug Plugs, Butt Hugs, & b-Vibes with Alicia Sinclair For more information about Alicia Sinclair, visit: bvibe.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

25 Aug 202148min

How has culture shaped your sexuality? According to my guest Dr. Shefali Tsabury, culture has conditioned us to suppress, cheat, and lie to ourselves. But radically authentic love and desire IS possible if we’re willing to confront common myths and make the conscious decision to live free. In this fascinating conversation, Dr. Shefali talks about how to rethink marriage as a model for growth, whether monogamy is natural (or not), and how to replace societal conditioning with something more wild, interesting, and frankly pretty sexy: worthiness. For more information about Dr. Shefali, visit: DrShefali.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

21 Aug 202144min