Ep. 317: You Weren’t Listening! Plus, Adoption Representation with Nefertiti Austin

Biz and Theresa wonder, if a parent talks in the kitchen, does anybody hear them? We realize that no matter how much we burn energy telling our kids important information about the day’s schedule or expectations, our kids aren’t listening. “You didn’t tell me!” and “I didn’t hear you!” abound! Plus Biz is back and bored, Theresa gets impulsive and we welcome back Nefertiti Austin to talk about her new memoir Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender and Parenting In America.

Follow Nefertiti on Twitter @NefertitiAustin. Her book Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender and Parenting In America will be out September 23rd, but you can pre-order it now.

Some book recommendations from Nefertiti:

Adoption Story Written by a Black Person for Children:

Heart Picked: Elizabeth’s Adoption Tale by Sara Crutcher 2016

Black Mom Narratives:

Rise Up Singing: Black Women Writers on Motherhood Edited by Cecelie Berry 2004

Black Motherhood(s): Contexts, Contours and Considerations Edited by Karen T. Craddock 2015

Child, Please: How Mama's Old-School Lessons Helped Me Check Myself Before I Wrecked Myselfby Ylonda Gault 2015

Postcards from Cookie: A Memoir of Motherhood, Miracles, and a Whole Lot of Mail by Caroline Clarke 2015

Becoming by Michelle Obama 2018

Guidebook to Relative Strangers: Journeys into Race, Motherhood, and History by Camille T. Dungy 2018

Mothering While Black: Boundaries and Burdens of Middle-Class Parenthood by Dawn Marie Dow 2019

Baby Love: Choosing Motherhood After a Lifetime of Ambivalence by Rebecca Walker 2008

Who's Your Mama?: The Unsung Voices of Women and Mothers Edited by Yvonne Bynoe 2009

Breathe: A Letter to My Sons by Imani Perry

We Live for the We: The Political Power of Black Motherhood by Dani McClain

Check out Theresa's new book! It Feels Good To Be Yourself is available now wherever books are sold.

Our book You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning at Parenting! is available wherever you buy books.

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Show Music Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com) Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes) Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes) Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes) Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans