Am I Difficult to Love?

Everyone suffers in love sometimes, but what would love look like if either party were unaware of what makes them insufferable to be around? We think it's important to be aware of what makes you difficult, even if only occasionally, and who knows? Maybe you won't be quite so offended next time someone you love points out something you need to improve in yourself. It can never hurt to notice the small things about yourself that might bug a partner, and it's so easy to overlook these things if you're used to being alone. But you're not alone! We're all difficult to love in our own way.

This week we start the episode by reading what our listeners think makes them difficult to love, diving into whether being picky makes you difficult and discovering that a lot of people think being insecure makes them difficult in love. Then we break down what we think makes us difficult in love, using our attachment styles as a way of understanding why we are a certain way, and laughing at the fact that we are complete opposites in love. We learn that Honey thinks she's too independent and can't rely on others, which Maria confirms she can find annoying in Honey and in people she loves, and try to understand the dynamic between anxious and avoidant attachment styles by attempting to understand ourselves as partners a little better.

If we learnt anything at all, it's that having compassion for those who live and express their love differently to you is always helpful. You might think you know why someone doesn't know how to comfort you when you cry- they clearly don't care- but really this plays a bigger part in them attempting to understand you and worrying they might disappoint you. We hope we open your minds and inspire you to contemplate your difficulties in love, or to have a conversation with your partner about their attachment styles and love languages.

This video was inspired by a video by The School of Life. You can find it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UewdiBh_52U

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Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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