25. For You: Making and Maintaining Adult Friendships That Lift You Up
Not For Everyone25 Mai 2023

25. For You: Making and Maintaining Adult Friendships That Lift You Up

This deep-dive on friendships brought to you by countless listener DMs and years of oscillating between loneliness and social burnout. The balance is hard to strike and the stumbling never ends, but if we had to summarize our tips for finding lasting friendships, they might look something like:

  • Accept that making new friends takes time and will contain disappointment
  • Know that not every connection needs to be your deepest in order to serve you
  • Allow space for friendships to breathe when the ebs and flows of life happen
  • Be mindful of how you approach your friends for help, and how you offer help to them in return
  • Beware of possessive friendships and passive-aggressive behavior
  • Be honest with yourself about the friendships you can and should prioritize

In conclusion, everyone's just trying to live their lives. Plus some stupider tidbits we threw into the episode for good measure, including Caroline's iPhone notes from 2017, a hidden talent Jess discovered in herself this week, and the origin story of the phrase "having a time." AND ALSO, a drop-in from our editor, Abi! Now let Jess get back to her ugly night.

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This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse.

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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA

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