S6 Ep. 9: Quickies, What to Do with a Too-Wide Penis, and My Husband's Not Interested in Sex So Why Can't I Flirt with Other Men?
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’m in my 50s and have been with my husband for 20 years. We’ve reached a point where we have a good life together, but he’s not interested in sex anymore. I look after myself and have been getting attention from a couple of guys at my gym—one going as far as sexting messages which I've found extremely flattering, arousing, and exciting. Is it bad to continue enjoying this? While I know my husband would not approve, I’m getting a huge confidence boost and fun from it.2) Is it bad if most of the sex you have doesn’t last very long? My wife and I have young kids and demanding jobs and try to make time for sex, but it’s not easy. We end up mostly having quickies. I don’t mind because I always climax, but how can we make them more satisfying for her?3) I’ve just met someone I really like after 12 years of being single. Just one problem: his penis is too big for me. It’s not the length—it’s too wide. I can just about accommodate him side by side. Any tips on how to handle this? He said he’s had this problem with every person he’s been with. To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
30 Aug 202320min
S6 Ep. 8: Sex After an Affair, Penetrative Orgasms, and Why do I Hate Cuddling After Sex?
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’ve been with my partner for 13 years and recently found out he’s been having sex with a woman he works with. It’s over now and we’re having therapy, but we haven’t had sex since I found out six months ago. I can’t even think about sex. Every time I do, I imagine the two of them together and it makes me feel sick to the stomach. How long will this last? Will I ever be able to enjoy sex again?2) My question is about penetrative orgasms. We do what you guys talk about—my boyfriend gives me an orgasm first through oral sex—but I’d like to at least attempt to have one through intercourse. Any suggestions on how to do that? I know woman on top is the favored position, but is there anything I should be doing to up my chances of it resulting in an orgasm for me?3) My partner and I have been dating for two years. We're deeply in love and the relationship and the sex are great. We are very physical and love long cuddle sessions. But we have very different needs after sex: he wants to cuddle, and I just want to sleep or get on with my day. We had a big fight about this recently: he feels "used" and needs a long post-sex physical connection. I deeply love him and want to fulfill his needs, but find it hard to cuddle post-orgasm. I almost feel a repelling force as if as a switch turned in my brain. Post-orgasm, I suddenly notice all the sweat, stickiness, dirty sheets, and don't want to be touched. If it's in the morning, I suddenly realize that I have a lot of work to do and feel time pressure. I’m not that into morning sex, for exactly that reason. He really likes it and wants to do it more often. What can we do to find a compromise? Is it normal to find cuddling repellent after sex for some people? Can I train myself to get used to it (I really don't like it)?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
23 Aug 202325min
S6 Ep. 7: Multiple Orgasms, Sex Dreams, and Should I Encourage Him to Visit a Massage Parlor?
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’m in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend and we have great sex, but I have sex dreams about other men weekly. What could this mean?2) I am in my early 50's and became perimenopausal in my late 40's. My husband and I have been together for 25 years. Sex was always okay, but because of my lack of desire and sex being painful, we have not had intercourse for almost 4 years. I will give him an occasional hand job, but that's about it. I feel bad because I know how badly he wants sex, but it's just not there for me. So here’s my question: Would it be wrong for me to suggest he get a massage at one of those happy-ending places? I'm not sure how I feel about it, but if it's just a release he needs and there are no strings attached, the risk seems very low to me, assuming it doesn't lead to anything more. I know that he masturbates often, but it's different and I'd like to offer him some type of alternative that doesn't include me. I'm sure this sounds so horrible but I am honestly conflicted and could use your expert advice.3) I’ve never had more than one orgasm in a session and would like to try. Can you tell me how to have multiple orgasms and explain what they are? Is it one long orgasm, or are they quite separate?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
16 Aug 202322min
S6 Ep. 6: How Do I Make Myself More Interested in Sex, My Husband's a Cross-Dresser, and Which Things on a Sex Bucket List are Worth the Hassle?
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) My kids are about to fly the nest and it’s just going to be my husband and me. We get on really well, but I know this will mean he will want sex more often. I used to enjoy sex, but now I find I can take it or leave it. It doesn’t really excite me anymore, and I’m not sure why. How can I get myself more interested?2) My husband spent a month cross-dressing. He says he’s never going to do it again as I was so upset, and had never done it previously. Since then, I’ve noticed that when he is shopping for male clothes, he gets an erection. I’m confused about what this all means.3) I’m 37 and my partner is 32. We love your podcast and enjoy sex, but want to up the excitement level. We’ve started making a sex bucket list of all the things we’d like to try, and wondered if you had any thoughts on which aren’t worth wasting our time on and which are?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
9 Aug 202330min
S6 Ep. 5: How to Masturbate Without Using Porn, Is Once a Week Enough, and Are Separate Beds the Kiss of Death for Your Sex Life?
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) We’re a married couple—I’m 35 and my wife is 32—and love listening to your podcast. No kids yet. We enjoy sex, but only have it once a week. We try to do it more, but we’re busy and it never happens. We were talking about sex with a group of close friends and they all said they have sex three times a week minimum. It’s made us feel ashamed and like something is wrong, even though we are really happy with our sex life. What are your thoughts?2) I’m 35, I’ve had multiple relationships, but I have forever seen sex as a male-focused experience, never seeking pleasure for myself. My goodness has your podcast made me change my thoughts about sex! I wish I had this to listened to in my late teens! I have only ever orgasmed on my own, watching porn and using a clitoral vibrator. My aim is to orgasm with my partner (of 7 years), and you have given me the confidence to focus on this. I’m nervous that I won’t be able to do this without porn. Do you have any tips on where to start? 3) My husband snores so loudly, it makes sleep almost impossible for me. I’ve tried everything: ear plugs, playing white noise, trying to get him on his side. Nothing works. I feel resentful and irritable from lack of sleep. We have a spare room and, to me, the obvious solution is to sleep in separate rooms, but he won’t hear of it. He says we will end up having sex even less than we do and that it will ruin our marriage. Is he right?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
2 Aug 202325min
S6 Ep. 4: I Worry About How I Smell, Why Does He Want to Orgasm on my Breasts, and How to be a Decent Husband When You Aren’t Getting Sex
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’ve listened to every one of your podcasts and all too often identify as the ‘bad guy.’ I like to watch porn, which I do in secret. I have a secret social media account where I follow a few rather exhibitionist (and rather fun) women (but never engage sexually with them). I dream about visiting a sex club (just to watch), and I visited a nudist beach on my own (without telling my wife) just to see what it was like. I do this because my wife of 25 years just doesn’t have the same sex drive or sexual interests as me. Despite me desperately trying, she won’t talk about sex with me. I want to be a decent and honest partner and, after listening to your podcast, I closed that social media account, backed off visiting the sex club, I’ve not returned to the beach, and am resolved to be the ‘good if not frustrated’ husband. It might not sound like it, but I’m a good, caring guy and I love my wife too much to hurt her. Your podcasts have really brought this fact home to me. So, what advice can you give to keep me on the straight and narrow?2) I love sex but worry constantly about whether I smell okay. What do men really think about how women smell? And what do you think about using vaginal melts and douching?3) Why do men like to orgasm on their partners' breasts? My boyfriend of three months recently expressed interest in doing this. When I pressed him for details, he said he doesn’t intend it to be humiliating, just finds it erotic and it’s fun to come somewhere nature did not intend. But I still don’t get it.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
26 Jul 202324min
S6 Ep. 3: I Want Her Husband, Why Won’t She Let Me Give Her Oral Sex, and Please Explain Anal Play
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) You talk a lot about how most women have their orgasms through oral sex, but I’ve had more than one girlfriend push me away when I try to go down on her. They say they just aren’t into it. Is this true, or are there other reasons they aren’t telling me?2) I’m a 48-year-old woman and have been happily married for 12 years, but am feeling destabilized. I’ve made a new female friend and I am more than a little obsessed with her husband. He is everything my husband isn’t: good-looking, successful, sporty. My husband is a lovely man, but he doesn’t tick any of these boxes. I’m now having sexual fantasies about this guy. It’s making me feel miserable and I’m starting to avoid having sex with my husband.3) Can you tell me the difference between anal play and anal sex? I wish they would call it by something else because then I would be more interested in it. I hear about it all the time now, but I’m not even sure what anal play means.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
19 Jul 202321min
S6. Ep. 2: Talking Dirty, the Dangers of him Taking Viagra Even Though He Doesn't Need It, and What's the Point of an Open Relationship Unless Both of You are Attached?
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) My partner wants me to talk dirty, and I can see why it’s a turn on—but I don’t have a clue how to do it. What can I say that doesn’t make me sound like an idiot or will make me want to laugh? 2) I heard you on Diary of a CEO and was especially interested in your thoughts on Viagra. My partner is 26 and takes Viagra all the time. He can get an erection without it but, you’re right, there is a world of difference between a Viagra erection and a normal one. I think he’s addicted to feeling very hard. Is this bad? Should I be encouraging him to stop?3) I am in a serious relationship with a woman who is married and in an open relationship. I have extremely strong feelings for her and she’s crazy about me. I see her 3-4 days a week and the sex and emotional connection are amazing, but she has no intention of getting a divorce. I'm not seeing anyone else, but she gets to see me AND her husband. I’m not seeing any long-term benefits for me. Should I be seeing other people while I'm with her? Do I continue with this relationship? Or do I end things and find someone who I can have a monogamous relationship with? Trouble is, I don't know if I could have a monogamous relationship again.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
12 Jul 202320min
