Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Ep 2-192: Birth Mothers Show Their Strength

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption; Episode 8:Talking to Adopted Children About Being Adopted.    Adoptive Parents often wonder when is the right time to tell their adopted child that they are adopted. They want to learn how to tell them, which resources to use and how to utilize them, how to normalize adoption among their family and friends and lean about hows, whys, dos and don'ts in speaking with adopted children about adoption. Understanding the reationale behind adoption language, timing, frequency and body language are all important factors in discussing adoption with adopted children. Building Arizona Families Adoption Agency has worked with hundreds of adoptive families and children and has both personal and professional experience with adoption.

17 Sep 201920min

Adoption is becoming more and more talked about and with more knowledge, comes more questions.  Knowledge is power, so lets become “adoption powerful” because as a society, the more we understand adoption, the more normalize the adoption process, the more accepting it will become, which I believe will negotiate abortion being the popular option and will push adoption to the default option when parenting is not an option.  To grasp the entity of domestic adoption is to understand how a roller coaster works and jump on the roller coaster.  Don’t close your eyes because the journey is just as important as the outcome.  There will be highs and lows for the birth mother and the adoptive family, but the shared goal is an adoptive placement.  Learning about all the triads in adoption is beneficial for everyone involved because in order to understand a fraction it helps to understand and grasp the whole equation.   So let’s become “Adoption Powerful.”  Learning about all triads of adoption is beneficial to everyone involved because in order to understand a fraction it helps to understand the whole equation.  Please email adoption questions to birthmothermatters@gmail.com.  We will be answering additional questions in future podcasts. If you are listening and you are dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and want more information about adoption, we are a local Arizona Adoption Agency.  We are available 24/7 by phone or text at (623) 695-4112.  We can make an immediate appointment with you to get started on creating an Arizona Adoption Plan or just give you more information.

13 Sep 201926min

Your adoption choice, open, semi-open or closed, is one hundred percent your choice. An uplanned pregnancy and an adoption choice does not have to mean that you never see your child again.  If you are on the fence as to deciding between an open or a closed adoption, most birth and adoptive parents find that speaking and meeting with one another before making a commitment, helps them to decide whether to move forward with an adoption plan. Meeting in person allows the birth and adoptive parent(s) to get to know one another and often provides the birth parent(s) with the confidence of knowing that they have selected the best family for their child. Many birth parents who have ongoing contact with the adoptive family, find that receiving information about the child and knowing that the child is thriving, helps to ease their feelings of loss. Birth parents and adoptive parents can decide to communicate directly with one another before, during, and after the adoption process is complete. That contact can take place in many different ways including through the exchange of emails, letters, phone calls, Skype calls, and in-person visits. If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption, a licensed adoption agency is your best option. Local licensed adoption agencies can meet with you face to face, hold your hand when needed, and can remain with you throughout your pregnancy. In addition, you can visit your case worker after placement. Lastly, a local licensed adoption agency will be able to assist you with resources in your area and may even be able to provide transportation when needed.  Building Arizona Families is a licensed adoption agency that can walk with you every step of the way.  We would love to hear from you to find out how we can help.  You can call us 24/7  or text us 24/7 at 623.695-4112.

10 Sep 201918min

The mission of the Donna K. Evans Foundation is helping women after placing a baby for private adoption. The goal is to provide women a safe place to return for help; to reach their own life goals and dreams after private placement of their baby for adoption. Any woman who has placed a baby for adoption, regardless of the agency used for their adoption, may utilize our services at any time after the adoptive placement. Adoption matters. At the Donna K. Evans Foundation, we understand and value all aspects of the adoption triad: the birth mother, the baby and the adoptive parents.  The Donna K. Evans Foundation was developed to focus on the needs, wants and desires of a birth mother after placement. The opportunity provided by the DKE Foundation, enables a woman to choose a path for her life with support, assistance and resources. If you are intersted in volunteering or donating, please call Maura Celaya at: (480) 392-0146 or email at maura@dkefoundation.com Other ways to support women after they place their baby for adoption through the DKE Program: Monetary DonationsGED Study GuidesOne day bus passesPrepaid cell phone minutesCar Seats The Donna K. Evans Foundation is located at 8433 N. Black Canyon Highway Building 6, Suite 158, Phoenix, AZ 85021. With your donation, encouragement and support you are helping a woman find her wings and fly toward her dreams.  Read more about the Donna K. Evans Foundation on our website www.dkefoundation.com

6 Sep 201914min

It’s a normal question, because most people are unaware of many ways adoption benefits the biological mother who places a baby for adoption.  The beautiful process of adoption offers a tremendous upside for the biological mother that have the potential to be life changing. Some examples include (some are exclusive to our agency): Select and meet adoptive parentsChoose an adoption plan best for you - open adoption, closed adoption or in-betweenReceive photos and updates for at least 18 yearsReceive counseling both during pregnancy and after placementFinancial assistance to pay rent, utilities, food, clothing and household expensesCell phone and cell phone serviceTransportationMedical care for yourself and your babyBreaking a negative life cycleGiving the gift of lifeReceiving aftercare services to improve life outcomes including education, employment, and increased financial stabilityChoosing the adoptive parent(s) for the babyReceiving assistance that covers expenses during pregnancy and immediately after (if qualified) for housing, medical, counseling, and other expensesChoosing open adoption (if preferred) to remain in your child’s lifeBeing assured that the baby is being cared for how you would want your child raisedAccess to the Donna K. Evans Adoption Aftercare Program to assist you in rebuilding your life An unplanned pregnancy may be an uncomfortable or unpleasant reality in your current situation. Most of us have been faced with a situation or circumstance we wish we weren’t in, or in a position we wish we weren’t in. It can feel easier to avoid, evade, or refuse to accept reality. Please understand, you don’t have to face this alone.

3 Sep 201918min

The abortion issue! So as an agency, we decided to take a stand and be bold.  After seeing on the news that celebrities are seeking to emulate the #metoo hashtag with the #youknowme hashtag so women who have had an abortion can stand together in unity. WHAT?!?! Where is the hashtag for ADOPTION??? We launched the You Before Me campaign. We believe that courageous women who choose adoption, deserve their own hashtag! The hashtag #YouBeforeMe is a way a birth mother can proudly own the choice of adoption to protect the life of her baby. Abortion should never be a choice, as it robs the unborn child of their own choices and adoption is a beautiful alternative to abortion in Arizona. Building Arizona Families & AZ Pregnancy Help are here to help!  As co-founder of the agency, I always tell birth mothers to be proud that they chose life, proud of their courageous sacrifice, and to stand strong in their belief that choosing life is the best choice. Today, many women who were once addicted, homeless, in abusive relationships, etc., are proud of their choice to put their baby’s life first. Adoption is a positive choice for everyone – the baby, the birth mother, and the adoptive family. Adoption changes lives and futures. Adoption is a positive choice for so many women who believed they had no choice. It’s time to celebrate a woman’s right to choose adoption and to give women the necessary resources so that they have a viable choice. We are committed to helping make that choice possible. The You Before Me movement celebrates with the courageous women who choose life for their child through adoption. Stand with us and stand tall! Visit our website: ube4me.life

30 Aug 201918min

Taking the First Step in Making an Adoption Plan If you find yourself pregnant and parenting, regardless of your reason is not an option for you. Take the first step, accept that you are pregnant. Your life is not going to spiral out of control, you are in the driver’s seat and can stay in control. You don’t have to do this alone.  Adoption is a big decision, it’s a choice that can feel overwhelming and mind boggling, but it doesn’t have to. Placing a baby for adoption is a choice that life has come to when reality prevails over dreams and finality over promise. Adoption is the ultimate sacrifice. It’s a mother’s gift of life and a promise to her child, a life she cannot provide. She fights every maternal instinct to place her baby with a family who can provide that coveted life. A mother will put the needs of her baby before her own needs.  Do understand, adoption is not without heartache for a birth mother. Dealing with regret, fear, guilt are just the beginning emotions a birth mother feels. The fear of judgment or condemnation from family, friends and even strangers can become paralyzing. As an agency, we work with our birth mothers to combat the negative feelings and emotions and focus on the positive ones. A change in perspective is paramount in the ability to look past one’s fears and celebrate one’s decision. Adoption is a celebration of hope, promise and life. Sometimes the best choices are the hardest choices but strong women chooses life, but an even stronger woman chooses adoption.

27 Aug 201922min

Building Arizona Families Adoption Agency Co-Founder Kelly Rourke-Scarry and Radio Personality Ron Reigns, developed a podcast to provide education, support, interviews and news regarding adoption. This podcast is geared for anyone interested in adoption, considering adoption, in the adopted process, and for women who are pregnant and considering adoption. Adoption is a triad of three entities: Birth Mother, Adoptive Parents and the Adoptee. This Podcast focuses on all aspects of adoption; placing emphasis on the birth mother, while at the same time encorporating and interweaving both the adoptee and the adoptive parents. Looking at adoption through a magnifying glass, enabling listeners the ability to see all three entities of the triad, thereby gaining a more thorough perspective. Understanding the most misunderstood member of the adoption triad, the birth mother, will enable listeners to see clearly the complete, beautiful portrait of adoption.

22 Aug 201918min